Struggling hardcore

Keepsalowprofile · 2018-08-19T14:24:37+00:00

Dude, I'm going to lay this out for you. You can take what I say or leave it. Its what I wish I was told at your age AND ACTED ON!

I've done this. You can too.

(1) Are you still fat? Plenty of chicks will have fun with the fat guy with no intention of fucking them because why would they lower their SMV and esteem in the eyes of their friends by doing that?

If you're still fat stop being fat. Being fat is the physical manifestations of your lack of character. Get to the bottom half of your ideal BMI. Weights and cardio. Theres no excuse, especially at your age. Everything you need to succeed is online. Stop making excuses.

Get someone to take a photo of you without your shirt on and post it to Facebook saying what you're going to achieve, when and why and how on X date you will post another photo showing what you have achieved. Say that you are doing this to hold yourself to account. Then shut up about it and make it happen. People will massively respect that and you put the full weight of social pressure on yourself and even when you're lazy and glutenous, shame at failing will drive you forward. Myfitnesspal is a great app.

(2) Stop being fat

(3) Aim low, your first fuck is better not remembered. Pop that cherry with some disgusting skank, get a hooker and get it over with. Its a dead albatross hanging around your neck and it stinks of desperation.

(4) Be funny, chicks fuck funny guys, even occasionally fat ones (but they are usually fat too). Watch stand up on youtube. Go to some stand up comedy open mic nights and watch people do the scariest fucking thing you can do. Then start writing your own shit and get up and do it too. Badly! But that doesn't matter. Like anything worthwhile, its hard and you have to work at it. Post that commitment on Facebook too and invite your friends. Get a photo of yourself up on stage and put it on tinder and watch your matches quadruple overnight.

(5) Do Krav Maga or Systema. You will learn how to disarm and use weapons and fight 6 guys at once. Commit to at least grading the first grade. It will change you. You'll never have to use it because men will look in your eyes and see what your capable of. You will have presence you can't dream of. If you do 2 back to back classes 4 nights a week you can use this instead of weights and cardio in fact I recommend it. Two birds with one stone. Whats that? You don't have the time? Bullshit, you can get by on 6 hours sleep a night for 5 nights a week.

Dude this sounds harsh but I'm not writing it to hurt you. You're losing at life. If you're 19, fat and never been kissed you need to forget about fucking chicks and focus on making yourself someone Men want to be friends with and Women want to fuck. You need to look at yourself and hate what you are. Don't try to improve yourself and tell yourself all these positive affirmations. You need to feel disgust in your heart for your weaknesses and set out to obliterate them with anger driving you. Think of all the people who rejected you and shit on you and told you you were nothing. Right now, they are right. Your mission is to prove them so utterly wrong that it is a massive "fuck you" to them. It needs to be an utterly blow them out the water "fuck you".

You set out in the spirit of self destruction and I guarantee you a new authentic self will emerge in its place without any conscious effort.

Spend the next 6 months dragging your sorry fat ass out of its comfort zone and reap the rewards or fuck around looking for low effort solutions and getting nowhere for the next 5 years. Its up to you.

Finally, you need to get to know this man intimately https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4d-P9baha-w

Good luck!

Thunderfin · 2018-08-19T08:54:27+00:00

I guess it comes with escalating. I can't help you too much there bc I have similar problems.

I'm 19 and had my first kiss at 18... you're not alone. It'll come, don't rush it.

JordanRedfort · 2018-08-19T08:35:07+00:00

Your novelty wears off. You go from being the cool and interesting guy that hangs out with them to the turd which sticks to the end of a dogs tail.

Naturally, there’s only so much you can say to get a girl’s attention. Your conversations don’t have to give her the impression that you’ve known each other your whole lives.

Once you’ve gotten her interest and maybe even her number, you escalate. Touch her; remember that actions speak louder than words. Display dominant body language. Two steps forward, one step back. If you’re still lost, read posts about kino and escalation. Then go out and practice.

MakeMenGreatAgain44 · 2018-08-19T13:36:47+00:00

You need to use more power language. Stop being boring. Do more touching and keep eye contact relatively strong. Seem interested innthe but like you are not coming too strong. Also, seem somewhat chill but also excited like you 're fully enjoying life. Tease, joke, be playful

healthyteacher4 · 2018-08-19T17:48:59+00:00

Are you reading, broadening your mind... learning new topics to converse about?

A book I will recommend is Lost Art of Listening. If you go on about how interesting you are, people will get bored quickly. But if you can reach into their lives and do more listening, you will always win. I learned to do that and women compliment me on how good a conversationalist I am. Deep down, I suck at it. I'm worse than you. But I learned to sit back, listen and let others do all the heavy lifting in the conversation. It was a key milestone in my development.

machimus · 2018-08-19T20:03:36+00:00

Since then, I have lost 70 pounds and developed good social skills.

Fuck. Yes. Good work dude, most people never recover from that.

No idea what your problem is, because you never explained what you’re saying in the first 5-10 minutes. “I don’t know what’s happening” is a poor diagnosis tool. How are you going about it? What are you saying a minute or two before they lose interest? Do their facial expressions ice over when you talk about certain things? Do you run out of things to say and stand there awkwardly until they excuse themselves? See, we have no idea.

frequentlywrong · 2018-08-19T09:06:28+00:00

Does anyone have an idea of what I could be doing wrong?

You are boring them.

Title	Struggling hardcore
Author	suavement7
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	August 19, 2018 7:55 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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