Well to start out, would have been married for 10 years this October. Won't go into the details, but I posted my story over here:

http://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/bwgfl/10_years_3_kids_and_now_she_says_she_isnt_in_love/

Anyway, I'm ready to start moving on. My main problem is that I tend to lack confidence. I'm a decent looking guy (so I've been told), go to the gym 5 times a week, have a good job, but I am so shy when it comes to talking to people that I don't know. I guess I just lack the confidence needed or the fact that it's been so long since I've even attempted to try anything like this.

So, any advice or things I should read/listen to.....any help would be greatly appreciated.

:)