I just found out a girl I met on vacation lives on my city. What should I do next?

Inner_voice · 2010-07-16T06:54:54+00:00

"Blablabla bumped into a friend of yours. Since you're in town, wanna blablabla?"

Don't show up without contacting her, and try not to mention that her friend told you where they were going.

philosarapter · 2010-07-16T13:35:00+00:00

First. Remove the "really" out of the "I really want to hang out with her".

Then either:

Make plans with your friends to do something epic. Then when you call her, let her know there is one spot open in your skydiving/scuba trip and thought that she would be into that sort of thing.

or

Take Inner_voice's advice.

I'm not gonna lie though, girls will often hook up with guys on vacation because they feel they don't have to see them again. Unless she seemed particularly interested in you (and not just drunk interested) she's probably going to ignore you. Just a fair warning. If this becomes the case, just drop her and move on.

Obviously I don't know anything about you, but you are coming off as a tad bit too eager. Take a step back and attract her to you

2010-07-16T18:32:09+00:00

text her: "Casual sex?"

Box-Monkey · 2010-07-16T18:58:18+00:00

Seems like you might be coming down with a case of oneitis, man.

The most I recommend you do would be to text her something witty and with response value. Read the ultimate texting guide, It's a quick read and helps a lot with this shit. But only one text, and if you don't get a response, write her off. It might be best to write her off now, but you seem set on her for some reason.

If she noticed you following her and was actively avoiding you, call it all off now.

2010-07-17T15:43:04+00:00

We met on some club at the beach, we ended up dancing, kissing and all that jazz before I stupidly left her to go back to the hotel to drink with my friends.

So you got lots of mutual attraction, but you skipped C1 (conversation) and moved right into C2 (intimacy / kissing). Now, this is vacation we're talking about here, so things can and must move MUCH faster.. but if you kiss before C1, then you need to cut it short until you can make her feel more comfortable before doing any further escalation. If you don't, then this will happen:

I saw her the following day and she was a tad cold with me

buyer's remorse. Here's what she's thinking, "I made out with this dude I don't even know.. I just got caught in the moment and just kept going with it. I don't know anything about him and he sure as hell doesn't know me. If I go back, I know it'll just start up right where things left off, there will be no sense of connection, and I'll just end up feeling used and like a slut."

well, I lied. I did follow her around for a bit before I realized she was avoiding me

Just a wild guess... did she jump into the pool? :)

She gave me her phone number back at the beach but I haven't called/texted her since. I'm planning on calling her around Sunday. Any ideas on the smoothest way to do it?

Tough call because she already did get buyer's remorse. My guess is that it's probably more work than it's worth to really try and salvage -- but, that said, you really have nothing to lose, and it's not like Monday night is a particularly good night for doing cold approaches anyways, haha.

My thought would be to text monday night a little before you head out with the typical high value text formula:

"Hey, I just got done with [high value activity: salsa dancing lessons, parachuting, etc], and I heard you guys were going to be down at [location]. is that still on?"

The second half you can modify however, but the first part is key: you just got done with a high value activity. DHV her. Make sure she knows you're a very busy man, but you heard they were going to be somewhere so you are going to drop in.

2010-07-18T09:49:12+00:00

Ask her when you can tap that

daveguy · 2010-07-16T09:46:57+00:00

"Hey it's me from the beach. Was surprised to see your friend in my town... pleasantly. How was the rest of your vacation?"

Title	I just found out a girl I met on vacation lives on my city. What should I do next?
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Date	July 16, 2010 5:58 AM UTC (16 years ago)
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