How to build rapport

2010-09-17T16:24:24+00:00

Mirroring body language itself can be a useful opener. I've come up to attractive girls in coffee shops, clubs, and bars who were leaning against a wall with a bored look on my face. I'll walk up to them, cross my arms, slump my shoulders lean against the wall and stare boredly at them until they realize what I'm doing.

Almost everytime they laugh and entering into flirty conversation is easy as hell. Sometimes it is nice to be able to open without actually saying words.

ArMcK · 2010-09-17T13:57:12+00:00

I've noticed with this girl I'm gaming now that by being assertive with my physical presence she actually does all the rapport building to me.

I.E. When I talk to her, I talk slowly and dominantly, and casually stroll into her space until I'm right up in her face, then I turn away and go stand somewhere else. She'll come right up next to me and stand with the same (actually mirrored) posture. Or I'll sit down and take a drink, and she'll sit down and take a drink. We work together so if I stand in my station she won't really come into that yet, but if I stand with my back to her in our common area she'll come right over and mirror me. It's almost become a game to see what I can get her to follow me to do.

Also, if I'm getting a little bit of rapport body language, but not quite enough, I'll stretch and yawn really big. The yawn impulse is automatic rapport in almost everybody. It seems to sink the last little bit of hesitation. If you get "What, do you need a nap?" or something like that other than a yawn, then you don't have rapport.

Title	How to build rapport
Author	okcspecialist
Upvotes	22
Comments	6
Date	September 17, 2010 12:57 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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