Teddybear kino!??

ThrowawayPUA · 2010-11-09T06:22:23+00:00

Watch this 10 part YouTube series:

philosarapter · 2010-11-09T15:12:48+00:00

Fuck your "reputation" or "image". Fuck how others perceive you. That kind of thinking will only succeed in further strengthening the walls you have imprisoned yourself in. People are fluid and ever-changing. If you wish to become less of a teddy-bear and more of a panther you are going to have to change a few things about your behavior to accomplish that.

The answer to your question is you need to turn up the heat, up the ante, increase the risk/reward. Be bolder, do more daring things. Teddy bears are "safe", be dangerous. From the very start with a girl, you should make it sexual. Use innuendos, and body language to signal "I know you want to fuck me because I want to fuck you". Meanwhile your words are saying things like "Well, I don't know if you are really my type." Keep strong eye contact and don't back down from her tests, challenges or responses.

Use your wit to disarm her resistance and keep her on her toes. Remember you are trying to get her to illicit an emotional response, you are not just a faceless conversation; you are engaging, stubborn, strong and witty.

lilninjalee · 2010-11-09T05:26:49+00:00

Don't worry about your image and how others perceive you. Be aggressive/assertive and be ready to make out with a girl within seconds of meeting her. Be very prepared to sleep with her within the first two dates. Third date is without question. The goal is to prevent friendzoning and establish sexual understanding. Forget IOIs and assume she wants you simply because you want her. This clip explains what you need to do

Mouthpiece · 2010-11-09T15:58:27+00:00

before I notice the IOIs

You need to study these. Watch when girls give them to other guys, internalize the signs so you'll automatically recognize them when given to you. Do you now know what signs you were missing before from previous girls?

I'm afraid that escalating this kino ladder kind of contradicts both my self-image and how others perceive me.

Not sure what you mean by this. Properly done, kino should be congruent with who you are and the image you're projecting to everyone around you. The idea behind the "kino escalation ladder" is that you use physical contact, appropriate to the circumstances, to elevate intimacy. When you meet someone, you shake their hand. When they tell a joke, you might pat them on the back or give them a high five. When you're escorting a woman from one place to another, you might offer your arm. If you're sharing a secret, you'll lean in close and whisper in her ear—perhaps making light contact. You can guide her by the elbow.

The more comfortable you get touching people in low-stakes interactions, the more comfortable you—and they—will be when you appropriately escalate. How do you know what's appropriate and when? Style calls this "calibration." Its the ability to read the signs your companion is giving.

Sounds like you need to work on your inner game a bit as well as your outer game.

ihaveabu · 2010-11-09T17:50:00+00:00

change your self image. flaunt your looks (or if you don't have looks, flaut more materialistic things like nice clothes and accessories).

kino can be done by anyone. you don't have to look like mystery to pull it off. but since you're def not at that mental stage yet, use material things as a crutch for now

Title	Teddybear kino!??
Author	babyfacek
Upvotes	6
Comments	7
Date	November 9, 2010 5:12 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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