The prevailing wisdom here on seddit is that texting should be used to setup dates but not to try and increase attraction. The idea is that you can't raise attraction through text you can only (at best) maintain or (at worst) lower attraction. I agree with these principles. But for those of you who have gotten the F-close and want to maintain a good FB (or develop a sexually significant LTR), texting, or more accurately sexting, can work wonders for heightening the experience.

As I mentioned in previous postings, I made some bad mistakes fishing off the company pier. For all the bad that happened, though, I did take some lessons from it that have made me a better person and a better lover. Sexting was one of those.

I ended up sleeping with a co-worker on a business trip (some extra wine and open-hearted discussions lead back to my room and an amazing night). Her office and mine were directly opposite each other so that when we were both seated I could only see her legs - the glass in her office had frosting but not on the lower 3rd.

We started using IM to chat throughout the day and the conversations got quite sexual and steamy. I could watch her legs as she crossed and uncrossed them as she got more and more aroused (this is a woman I kissed to orgasm - a very sexual gal and the person who made me finally realize that sex could be a lot of fun - I had a lot more hangups before I hooked up with her). Occasionally she would have to get up and close the door to her office to make sure no one heard her moaning. Usually, by lunch time, we were heading to the storage room in the basement (I was one of the few with a key) for an incredibly hot quickie. The end of the day we'd head out to a nearby park with a blanket and do it again in the woods.

Now, obviously we were already past the initial PU stage here and we already had attraction and an F-close. But for continuing the relationship while still in its early stages, our texting was key. So, don't think that texting/IMing is never useful, just wait to use it at the right time.

Maybe this should be under relationship_advice, but I like the gang here better and think it could still be helpful.