Honestly, I'm not a big fan of the whole online game, its just something I do to keep me entertained when I get bored during the week.

With that being said, I think its helping my overall game quite a bit and think it may be able to do the same for you. Here's why:

  • Abundance mentality: once I open a girl on OKC and receive a response I consider the interaction to be like a phone exchange, she's just another number in my phone that gets attention at some point in the day when its convenient for me. Neediness never comes across because it isn't there, in part thanks to OKC.

  • Banter practice: a lot of guys seem to have trouble coming up with things to say in set. Same with phone game, online game can be used to practice banter. In fact, combined with my profile my humor via OKC is probably more congruent then I can be with girls I'm texting that have only met me once. Some of the stuff I've come up with for OKC banter have helped me in sets IRL. It's just adding to the arsenal of ridiculous things to say.

  • Fun mindset/not focusing or caring about results: OKC is just another way to meet girls and develop that “I don't give a fuck” attitude girls love. As you'll see from the interaction I've been improving a lot at showing extreme non-neediness. In the 4 messages I send I ask a single question and its part of the banter.

OK Cupid conversation

Kumar:

Subject: What are your thoughts on our 64% match rating? In message: And our 25% enemy rating. I think it's bullshit. Just a thought.

OKC Diva:

nice muscle you got there.  *(My current profile picture is of my bicep while flexing. Don't ask.)

I'm confused, are you saying that you think the percentage should be higher or lower? Not gonna lie, I don' t look into percentages all that seriously lol 

Kumar:

Thank you, I think my muscle is lovely as well. A friend on here put up a photo and stated it was because her arm looked nice. I couldn't help myself, just had to mock her ;-) 

I don't take the percentages seriously at all. In fact, I don't actually think I'd get along with the majority of my 85%+ matches on here. 

We're 20% enemy. Tell me why I should strongly dislike you. Besides being Indian ;-)

OKC Diva:

I'm awesome, don't hate!  haaha you know you like those Indian girls. 

Nah I know what you mean though, I don't understand the %enemy either. Maybe its a humorous feature of this site? or maybe its used for superheroes to find villains faster? 

Kumar:

Well, you're definitely confident, which I like. Good luck with the whole being Indian thing though :-D 

And for the record I would definitely be the SuperHero in this case ;-) 

Like you said though, you'd be a pretty awesome villain to pursue. How would you go about attempting to end the world? Some sort of poison curry?

OKC Diva:

Embrace the brown! You're one of those secret fobs aren't you......lol 

Honestly any curry I make would be detrimental to health in general. So I guess poison curry by default? :) I mean I could also find a way to destroy the internet, people would go insane and kill each other. Less work for me. 

So what would be your gameplan as the "superhero" to stop me ? 

Kumar:

I'd use OK Cupid to seduce so you forget all about the plans of world domination. You can order us take out or pizza instead of risking both our lives with your cooking. 

Problem solved, world saved, everyone happy, especially you ;-)

OKC Diva:

Can't wait to see your seduction skills in action, I'm a villain that's not easily seduced. 

One problem with your master plan: I'm not buying us takeout, you are. :) 

Texting

OKC Diva and I spent over a week texting before finally meeting up. So you guys know logistics she goes to school about an hour from where I am but she comes home pretty often which is only 30 minutes away.

The majority of our texting over the week was logistics and comfort but I managed to keep it fun and humorous. I think its important to mention that I took an extremely long time to get back to her on most of her texts (she did the same) which allowed for us to only go back and forth a couple times a day. If we had texted more often it would have been a real struggle to keep up interest for that week. I definitely let the conversation totally die at least twice before pinging the next day. Again, good example of non-neediness and definitely not something most guys do.

First date

We met up Friday near a local university to hit a hookah bar after smoking a bowl (see username).

My major sticking point at the moment is physical escalation and I've been focusing on it for two weeks or so. I was happy with my progress here despite not getting as far as I would have liked. We spent about an hour smoking hookah sitting next to each other. Kino'd my way up and had my arm around her but for the billionth time (every FR I write) I had trouble pulling the trigger on a k-close.

I've been blown out in the past for not closing the first date but thankfully this girl was hooked enough to want to see me again. While I don't attribute this to luck (I know I ran solid game), I'm well aware that hotter girls or those in higher demand probably won't be calling me back if I act like such a beta and fail to make a move on something I obviously want. And that's exactly why I'm working on this.

Second “date”

Originally OKC Diva and I weren't going to be able to meet for another week but she was going to be in my college town the night after our first date and wanted me to meet up with her. Phone call to RawDogAssassin (fellow sedditor and college peer) Saturday afternoon and 3 or 4 hours later I arrive the place my social proof is highest anywhere at the moment: college. RDA and I head to the party OKC Diva is supposed to be at around 11 pm. We walk in and I immediately recognize OKC Diva looking sexy in a red dress. I open like a boss and realize about 10-15 second into the interaction that I have the wrong girl. And I mean wrong girl in the absolute best of ways. Long story short, I walked in and opened the hottie who happens to be the birthday girl whose party it is. She likes me and within 5 minutes RawDogAssassin and I have met the other birthday girls and all their best friends. Fucking awesome. Social proof through the roof.

OKC Diva shows up and this time I have the correct girl. We interact quite a bit while at the party but its not all together. She has her friends, I'm kicking it with RDA and talking pretty much every girl there. Ran into an old friend or two as well. RDA and I came to the party with the intent of quickly puling OKC Diva and any of her friends to the bars. Party was pretty chill so it took us longer than expected but we got them to the bars within a reasonable amount of time.

Proceeded to lead the girls around downtown and bars the rest of the night with RDA, pulled OKC Diva to the dance floor and kino'd it up.

K-close

Again, no idea how to kiss close. Eventually I just said fuck it and literally stopped dancing in the middle of a song. She was grinding on me at the time and half turned to see what happened. I physically turned her the other half of the way, got a solid grip on her hair and got the makeout. Big win in my book. Not because its a big deal but because its not a big deal and all it took was doing that to show me.

Dropped her and her friends off at the end of the night. I would have pushed for a full close if logistics were better or if I felt it necessary. She had already expressed a lot of interest in seeing me again and we had loose plans set for this week so I wasn't in any rush when I had to be up early the next morning.

Overall I'm pretty happy with the whole set. I don't think I'll have too many problems k-closing on the dancefloor anymore but I still need to work on getting there every time (and way further) on the first date. Seeing her this week either in the area or going to her college. Latter option would be preferred as she has her own place down there so I need to find a way to stealthily plant that idea in her head lol.