AFC living at home during college. Where do I meet girls?

TurnMySwagOn · 2011-05-01T16:17:17+00:00

Honestly, you sound exactly like me 1-2 years ago. As of right now I'm 20, in college, and currently home for the summer, so I know what you're going through.

First off, you listed yourself as smart, confident, and fit, I believe the other two but I don't think you're just as confident as you think you are. It's the little things, man, when you're walking around campus walk tall with your chest out. Pull your hands out of your pockets and swing your arms a bit, get a little swagger in your step. Girls start to notice these things. Start talking to people, but start small, comment on the weather to a girl at a stop sign, make some kind of remark in an elevator, if a girl and yourself make eye contact smile and say hi (she's not gonna bite you).

In high school I was in a similar situation (sausage fest, ect). The girls talked to me, and I was pretty popular, but on the weekends it always ended up just the guys sitting around talking about girls none of us were fucking. If you want to change then sometimes it takes changing the people around you also. This was easy for me when I went to college because only 1 other person from my high school went to my university of 40,000 students, aka I had to make some new friends. It's hard at first but I feel like once you start making friends in a certain scene (party scene, music scene, what have you) the amount of friends you have grows exponentially. This is due to the fact that once you have more friends, you're introduced to more people and more potential friends. So the moral here is to start making friends who are in to the same thing you are. Start by talking to people in class, see whats going on this weekend and ask to join. If you have to just go to the party solo and start making friends there. Don't be afraid to get dudes numbers. Like I said, once you start making friends it's only going to come easier.

Which leads to my next point... parties. College is THE time to party and meet people my friend so soak it up while you can. I don't know about you, but I'm into the party scene at my university and the club scene a bit too. If that's not your cup of tea this paragraph might not be as helpful, but find your niche, whatever it may be. I frequent a lot of frat parties, they're the easiest place to meet girls. There's always tons of girls at these places. Now I find the stereotype that girls at college are just waiting to be fucked every second of the day a bit of an exaggeration. College girls are DTF (down to fuck), but it takes a little more work than the average person might believe. I love the dance floors, hit up them dance floors son! If you don't know how to dance or are too shy just get the fuck out there! Spot a girl you like and go ask her to dance, I repeat, ASK her to dance (I'm not a fan of these guys who just come up from behind and latch on and start grinding, even though it may work I don't like it). Another way is to spot a group of girls and go strike up a conversation. There are plenty of openers on here, but also feel free to just talk about whatever comes to mind. Girls at these frat parties will most definitely make out with you, which I think you need that the most right now to get the ball rollin'. When you manage to start grinding on a girl, you'll know the time is right (trust me you just will), give her a gentle kiss on the neck and just go from there.

The club scene is very similar to frat parties (atleast in college towns, and college nights at the venue). You can't be as sloppy due to bouncers, and you can't order drinks yet, oh well. My friends and I always pre-game before going to the club because we definitely don't wanna go sober. It's slightly classier than frat parties, but overall it's essentially the same. Try working the same game as mentioned above and just start getting comfortable being around girls in a sexual manner.

House parties are a different beast. Unless you know the people at the house you're going to, or atleast know several of the people that will be there I wouldn't recommend it. At house parties almost everyone knows each other so the atmosphere is very different.

Notice I didn't get into bringing girls home, or any of that shit yet. Right now we just need to get you a base of confidence, friends, and a little experience. Also I mostly discussed night game, I could also do a bit of college day game (coffee shops, music venues, just chillin' on campus) if you want. Let me know if you need me to elaborate on anything.

EDIT: Ok I realize this is a lot of very general information, but I need to know specifically what you need help on and I can be a little more elaborate.

libertas · 2011-05-01T11:23:44+00:00

Student union. Coffee shops. Grocery stores. Talk to a female individual everywhere you go.

2011-05-01T09:52:58+00:00

I am going to make a wager that in high-school almost everything came easy for you. Without much effort you got decent grades and you had just enough friends to get by. When you looked at popular kids you thought that it was easy for them.

It turns out that it takes a huge amount of effort. Your college definitely has thousands of activities you can sign up for. You can choose to be active in politics, arts, music, charity, sports and any number of social events.

Where do I hang out to meet girls my age?

Find several activities that you think you can stand (maybe not enjoy, but you can commit to) and sign yourself up. If there isn't an activity offered that you want to do then start one and publicize it. Work your ass off.

edubation · 2011-05-01T10:36:28+00:00

Get a friends place you can crash at.

2011-05-01T12:36:49+00:00

Malls? Coffee shops? School events? Campus? Clubs (There are 18+ clubs). Women are everywhere. It'll be harder to get girls back home for a f-close if you live at home though. You'll have to figure that out.

magicroot75 · 2011-05-01T12:45:37+00:00

Go wherever you see girls. Go to a place where they are sitting, approach. Do so until reaching desired effects.

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-05-01T14:56:05+00:00

Sausagefest? That's why I changed my major from Chemistry to Art. You have to go where the girls are.

College is the first environment you've ever been in where people are pushed together in classes or departments according to their interests. Before this, you were lumped in with everyone your age, with many people you have nothing in common with. Now you presumably have selected a major and study alongside people with common interests. Use it. Your department surely has a continuing roster of events that revolve around your major, and you will meet girls that you have common interests. And don't just stop there. If you are a Chem major and are interested in literature, check out events at the English department.

Title	AFC living at home during college. Where do I meet girls?
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