Friend Zoned yet again. Fuck everything about this.

frogma · 2011-05-26T00:41:57+00:00

You did some pretty beta shit.

ImKumarYo · 2011-05-26T00:51:57+00:00

The seduction community about improving yourself, my friend. What happened to you has happened to many of us but you need to get it out of your head that you did everything right. You didn't. There are glaring mistakes just from reading this and I'm sure there were many more along the way. Its a good thing! Focus on yourself and what you can improve on for the next time. Hating her or yourself isn't going to get you anywhere. Best of luck, and please take the feedback from others without getting offended. We can be harsh but we mean the best :-)

Also, if you want more feedback, I can give some but I think this point is more important for you going forward. Honestly, you shouldn't be ranting about this. I'm guessing the vast majority of sedditors could have read this post up until her response and guessed what she was going to say (even without the help of the title).

calicontact · 2011-05-26T01:11:25+00:00

So I've been chasing this girl for a few weeks. - beta, total case of one-itis.

"It seems... I think we're perfect for each other." - probably felt brave but beta nonetheless

I did everything right. - No, you did everything wrong. My evidence? Read the next part of your post.

I was available, I helped her out whenever I could, and I made sure to be supportive when she was upset. - you acted like a friend, of course you ended up in the friend zone. You need to go back to square one. If you don't want to be friendzoned stop acting like a friend and start acting like alpha you are.

eptifibatide · 2011-05-26T00:58:36+00:00

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2011-05-26T00:43:38+00:00

"I'm crazy about you" is a way bad move. This isn't the end of a romcom. You want to show interest, not borderline-obsession. Work on being obvious with your intentions without coming off as desperate.

edit: To be clear, this is if you've already decided to lay your cards on the table, which is already sort of a bad idea. Unless she was secretly into you as well (odds usually are not good if you've been this passive for this long), it isn't going to work out for you.

Title	Friend Zoned yet again. Fuck everything about this.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	2
Comments	21
Date	May 25, 2011 6:24 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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