[xpost] "how do you beat this"

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-07-11T22:01:04+00:00

You don't use logic when arguing with women. They want to bond emotionally through shared experiences and empathy. There's an old saying, "change her mood, not her mind."

chumpta · 2011-07-12T02:38:53+00:00

tpua is once again correct. the way I see it, whatever stupid scuffle they were in was only the superficial surface of the girl's true complaint:

"you hate me, im the worst thing that's happened to you, why are you with me?"

have you read david dieda's "way of the superior man?" in it he gives the example of a man who is asked to clean the garage, and forgets. his wife becomes upset the next day and so he cleans the garage - but she is still upset.

the explanation is that the garage is just the surface - she is not upset that the garage was messy, she is upset that her husband showed a moment of instability and a lapse in reliability. and just as you cannot expect a woman to tell you straight out "sure, sex sounds great, whose place is closer," you cannot expect a woman to tell you straight out "it's not the garage, it's your character." hell, she's unaware of it most of the time.

now back to the comic, "babe im sorry ill change" isn't exactly the wrong way to go about it. it's on the beta side, but it addresses the real issue. if we assume the couple in the comic is also having some stupid battle over the garage, a proper way to go about it would be this:

walk over to her, take her hand/waist and pull her into you. look in her eyes. in a firm voice say: "hon, im sorry i didn't clean the garage. i'll go do it for you right now, ok?" then you give her a nice big kiss.

what does this all say? in so many words and actions, it tells her that you recognize your lapse in character, and appreciate her pointing it out. the "kino" here is key - that you sort of stop and take some time to address her, and give her your full attention. it DISPLAYS the reliability and stability that you previously showed a momentary deficiency in.

then when you are done your manly duties go back in a sweep her off her feet and give her a nice long fuckin' to show her you really care.*

*optional

ae7272 · 2011-07-12T22:11:53+00:00

ok, i've had to handle this before-- including I'm leaving you.. blah blah blah.. and only one thing works.. my answer "ok, leave, if you dont like it, go find someone else, if you're with me, this is the way it is.." I dont use any passive aggressive tone etc.. just straight, stone cold statements. I've had girls pack themselves, leave and turn up back two hours later begging for me to take them back. When she says "you hate me, you don't love me.." i normally say something to the effect of "yes, that is why i live with you and see you as much as i can, because i hate you, if you really think i hate you, then go find someone who loves you" and go on about my business. I have one simply philosophy when it comes to women and their ranting and raving, every woman needs a man who knows when to ignore them-- i think of them acting like sulking 4 year olds looking for attention. I'm so good at it now, I've trained my mother never to have a conversation with me when she is mad, she has to calm down before discussing anything with me. Do you know whats funny about that- Women who are involved with me tell me its one of the qualities they love the most about me, i have thick skin and dont let their bitching get to me... well of course i dont.. i'm not even bothering to listen.. yeah, so i beat that all the time!

Title	[xpost] "how do you beat this"
Author	side2
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	July 11, 2011 9:42 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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