[FR] I Approached 20+ women but couldn't hold their attention for long at a club.

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-08-18T04:52:00+00:00

Good job. Keeping a set running for 5 minutes, when you're trying to even get over AA, is awesome.

I often recommend this document, The first 3 to 5 minutes: Getting Attraction. It's structured club game based on the old Mystery Method, overall it's pretty good. I personally wouldn't use those "Oh Shit Moments" lines, but the rest is pretty good.

johnny878 · 2011-08-18T05:11:47+00:00

from my experience, you dont approach girls at clubs to have normal conversations. you pretty much just have to take on that whole fun party guy persona.

This is why i stick to day game or social networking, because im great at having normal conversations. but really just lack the energy and outgoingness that seems to be needed to be great at clubs.

i still get an occasional girl at a club, but its really just luck because i approach. not because im good at club game.

frogma · 2011-08-18T06:17:39+00:00

What's "the whole dubstep thing"? If that's anything like grinding, just go up to girls and do it. Make some eye contact and get a smile first if you're nervous about it. Then just approach confidently and dance. There's not much opportunity to talk, so that's like literally your only option.

Ghili · 2011-08-18T05:24:40+00:00

All I can say is good job for approaching, you're already making great steps, plus the fact that you kept the conversations lasting longer than a minute or two speaks well for you. Approach, Approach, Approach. You're doing everything the way you should be, just work on ~~your conversations skills and topics~~ living in the moment and using your surroundings to spark an interest. I would've loved to goto a dubstep concert!

AnotherSedditAccount · 2011-08-18T07:35:49+00:00

Great job approaching so many women in one night!

Here's what I'd try in your situation, after you've already started talking to her:

"Hey, do you know how to do the dub step thing?" Then ask her to show it to you if she does or comically try and fail at doing it if she doesn't. Laugh about how hard/cool (or lame) it is. You should have plenty of opportunity for kino. Pull her to the dance floor. At some point, get her to come get some air with you. Outside you can have a more standard conversation.

Don't think of this as a routine. It's just some stuff I imagine myself saying/doing to a girl in this setting.

AboveThee · 2011-08-18T18:47:27+00:00

rofl this is why I will never get dubstep.

seriot · 2011-08-18T16:58:51+00:00

Clubs can be very difficult because girls have their defense up to max. Some of these women have had 10 other guys go up to them with better approaches. Asking if they were here for the DJ is a fine approach, this could spark a convo if the target is really into the artist. You can go on about his latest tracks / previous shows.

You want to minimize the talking here and slowly go for her hand and try to do a few small dance steps to see if she is interested in dancing. If she shows any resistance you can abort and move to next target or ask to buy her a drink. Usually by the bar it is quieter which would allow for more conversation.

Also, give girls credit for being aware on how people you are approaching. They are more likely than not seeing you get negged x20 and will just neg on the basis of that. This is where you need a wingman to help offset the negs. You want to regroup with your circle and have a few laughs then get back in the game.

Title	[FR] I Approached 20+ women but couldn't hold their attention for long at a club.
Author	scratchphysics
Upvotes	2
Comments	9
Date	August 18, 2011 4:17 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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