So I just discovered this subreddit a couple days ago and I've read a lot of great advice. I understand that having self confidence is the biggest key to having inner game, but I have lost all of mine. How to I get it back? I know I'm making it sound as if it's a tangible item, but I don't know how else to get it across.

A bit of back story:

I was in a serious relationship for a bit over a year. It was the one that I thought would go the distance, and much like most relationships, it ended badly, with both parties being pretty hurt. Pretty soon after the relationship ended I moved to another city, hoping for a fresh start, and a new adventure. Flash forward a couple of months, and I'm lost. I was once an extremely confident guy. And it showed, making it easy for my pick up game. But after my lost relationship, it's just gone. For the first time in my life I have severe approach anxiety, and have kind of just turned into someone with no drive. Since the relationship ended, I've been with a few woman, but it's always unsatisfying on my part, or ends in rejection from their part. Each time this happens, my confidence goes down more. I don't know if I'm looking in the wrong places, or the wrong girls. I don't know where to look anymore. I hate clubs, but the places I frequent don't have much of what I'm looking for. I've read some very insightful things on here, and was wondering if anyone had constructive criticism for me. I guess it's jot just about self confidence, but an over all sense of fail.

TL;DR

got out of a relationship about 9 months ago, have no confidence anymore. Don't know where to go or where to look. Ideas?