I'm not a PUA in the normal sense of the word; I'm at a stage in my life where I'm looking for a long term relationship instead of casual sex (been there!). However I'm on seddit because I find it very interesting to understand the psychology of seduction. I wanted to share with you a recent interaction where I got to observe lots of things at work.

A group of us were ostensibly heading to a pretty major party across town. I'm rolling with a small group of male and female (HB8-9, mostly unavailable) friends, and we stop off at a small venue to pick up some more friends on the way. There's resistance to going to the main party because it's so far away, so instead I decide we're going to stop at a local bar and hang out there. I make some calls, my friends make some calls, and soon we've redirected most of the main party to our own little shindig.

Most of the people attending were not immediately known to me, instead to my friends, so I made sure to open with everyone who arrived, male or female. Completely accidentally it quickly identified me as the "host" of the party, even though I wasn't hosting shit. I made sure to return to my girls frequently and check they were having fun.

Very quickly, other men in the group started buying me drinks. It was either direct ("hey tipearly, let me get you a round!") or accidental (they would try and get my girls to do shots, who would always add one for me). I bought one round of drinks that night - one for myself and my girls when we arrived - and that was it.

I then noticed that the other girls in attendance were also spending a lot of time trying to get my attention; an HB9 gave me her number unsolicited after an hour at the party, and an HB8 appeared next to me every time I sat down. I kinoed playfully with the HB8 a bit, but I checked up on her and she was a bit of a slut so I kept it platonic.

Ultimately we closed down the bar, bought them out of patron and champagne, various people spent thousands of dollars (not I!), and a good time was had by all. I broke a few boys' hearts when I left with my girls in tow.

The end result, was rather successful. My HB9 friend that I've had my eye on for a few weeks ended up in a bed with me, and we've started a good relationship.

Basically, I noticed a lot of seddit's tips in practice:

  1. Open with everyone, be alpha.
  2. Make it clear with the other men that you are worth having there; social proof.
  3. Play with girls, make them feel at home.
  4. Escalate!

EDIT:

5. Don't call girls "sluts". I'm an asshole, apologies.