So I planned to meet my friends at a club last night. Whenever I go to a club I like to warm up by opening on the street first. There's a lot of benefits to opening on the street at night near club areas:

  • You'll probably open a girl that works at a club, and she'll be able to get you in for free. Last night was the second time that's happened to me.
  • You'll probably rack a few numbers, I got two numbers last night within my first 4 approaches.
  • Girls may invite you to where they're going, or better yet, you can venue change a girl that's bored and take her to your club, this happened to me once.

So, I won't talk about my whole night in detail because I want to focus on this one girl, but just to give you a quick overview (skip overview if you want to hear about the possible ONS)

Overview:

  • I open on the street, I meet a girl who I think wanted an ONS
  • My friends come, we hit a club, club sucked cause 80% of the girls worked at the club, we leave a friend behind cause his girl was there.
  • We go to a lounge, a cougar numcloses me and she leaves.
  • Being the good wing that I am and take one for the team by distracting my wing's target's friend, who was extremely boring and the most full of herself girl I've ever met in my life, god girls like this exist? My wing isolated his target, and could have taken her home, but he didn't think about it.
  • We leave the lounge after opening every girl there and head to an after hours club at 3am, these after hour places are SO sketchy, people smoking weed and doing drugs, and it's illegal to serve alcohol after 2am. My friend opened a stripper, I open a few sets, I'm sure there were escorts there too, once again sketchy as hell. A girl approaches me and invites me for a drink, I say "sure", we go to the bar, her friends follow, she orders 4 shots and 2 redbulls, racking up $64 and is like "are you going to buy the first round?" - I leave, she gets so pissed haha.

Ok back to the possible ONS girl:

  • Before meeting my friends, the fifth approach I do is a short hb8, totally into me.
  • I open her, her friends are friendly and right away her friends leave her
  • I asked her where she came from, she didn't want to tell me. I used Tyler Durden's famous line that works like gold every time, "I don't judge". She said she goes to a girls only gym, where they have pole dancing classes, and all the girls went to a some male stripclub bar where they rode the bull.
  • After some fluffing, I ask her what she's doing now, she said "she's going home to make cookies" I make a joke about me having some of those cookies
  • Some more of her friends walk by us and yell a comment I couldn't catch clearly but something along the lines of "woo girl show him how you ride that bull!!" and walk away. I thought they were just joking or something.
  • She's clearly interested in me, but, doesn't want to give me her number because she has a boyfriend, she later tells me he is her fiance, but, but, she doesn't leave and continues talking to me, as if she was waiting for me to do something. She hears my phone ringing off the hook and knows my friends are waiting for me, and says "are your friends waiting for you?", I see that she's not leaving but this is going nowhere, so I hug her, get her BBM, and we part. It didn't appear to me that she wanted a ONS until after later in the night cause she deleted me from BBM, clearly she wasn't looking for a relationship she has a boyfriend, I think she was just horny. I think I have some inner game issues which I will outline.

Inner game issues:

  • It's still not in my reality that ONS can happen, when the opportunities arise I don't see them until AFTER the matter. How do I fix this?
  • I'm still stuck in robot game mode, which is "open, isolate, numclose, day2". How do I become more fluid and flexible with all scenarios?
  • I still have some social conditioning going on, because the night was just starting, I wanted to go out with my friends, I could have tried taking her home, but my friends were relying on me for guestlist, I should have just tried taking her to my place, and txted them the guestlist name.
  • I hear that if it's a ONS, you don't go for the number, cause that will mess up a chance for the ONS. This kind of has to do with my first inner game issue, but how can you tell when it's a ONS or shes interested in more? Again, I can't tell until it's too late.

Thanks!