Easily embarrassed? Study finds people will trust you more

ConcordApes · 2011-09-30T08:12:59+00:00

Link to the study itself (sorry paywall)

http://psycnet.apa.org/index.cfm?fa=search.displayRecord&id=B9601803-B6B1-D508-5A73-A790137CE994&resultID=1&page=1&dbTab=pa

Also note from the article that they make a clear distinction between between embarrassment and shame.

Researchers point out that the moderate type of embarrassment they examined should not be confused with debilitating social anxiety or with "shame," which is associated in the psychology literature with such moral transgressions as being caught cheating.

If you think about it, consider some of the very social girls you run into. They may express embarrassment about something, but they are confident enough to openly talk about it, then drop it and move no like nothing ever happened. They don't let happen stances like embarrassment rule them (aka social anxiety).

puaCurveBall · 2011-09-30T08:34:19+00:00

One of the main idea's of Ayn Rand's Atlas Shrugged was that society functions by using your emotions against you, because they are hard to be deceptive with and/or use logic to override.

Most people are ruled by their emotions, so if you either observe or can induce an emotional reaction into someone, that is the only part of them you can trust. How often do you trust someone because you think they would feel too guilty or emotionally care about something ?

This is one reason why showing guilt over minor things will make people trust you, because they think you couldn't do something really bad because you would have too much guilt.

Likewise, this is why showing a woman signs that you are falling in love with her will make her comfortable around you, because she thinks you are being controlled by your emotions and wouldn't abandon her / hurt her.

Another example is showing your weakness or flaws to a woman, this generates amazing trust because it shows her you are a real person, partly because she thinks you must trust her to show your flaws, and two because they show you are emotional about them and that you have deeper stuff going on than the surface bullshit.

ehbeeseedee · 2011-09-30T21:41:04+00:00

That's because people are able to empatize with others when they show embarassment. Move along; this isn't a great pickup tactic in the first place. Vulnerability has it's place but embarassment is a different, less attractive stage of vulnerability.

Title	Easily embarrassed? Study finds people will trust you more
Author	ConcordApes
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Date	September 30, 2011 8:09 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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