Wanted to report the good news fellas. I was out of town for my cousin's wedding. I was with parents, have no driver license, and shared a room with my overweight snoring uncle, but I was feeling confident from a job interview and optimistic about the possibility of getting laid this weekend. it's been a while for me and it happened! Here's more or less how it went down:

At the reception, I am seated at a table with four of my cousin's (she is the bride) college GF's. We are latino's, and I go for educated, latina women. One of them, "mary" is particularly fine. I introduce myself as the bride's first cousin, make some friendly, confident small talk. I also make some light talk with relatives as they pass by, introducing them to my new lady friends, and I introduce myself to new strangers who join our table. I notice the girl I like has a version of my tatoo - we are both into our indigenous roots- yes! I build conversation about it, and about my travels to her country of origin, asking her plenty of questions about her family and her country. I maintain genuine interest.

Of course some challenges present themselves at the reception: I try to do the grab-her-hand-and-spin-her-around move with one of them as she passes and I almost twist her arm. Awkward. I sit next to them with little to say at one point - looking needy. And I fail to get down on the dance floor. But all-in-all I overcome it, keep my relatives laughing in front of the ladies, greet new people when I run out of conversation or when I don't know what else to do, I can always fall back on my family members to talk to. At one point, did a little cocky-funny, when they said "you win," and right on cue, I say, grinning "i always do." My uncle, who is going around taking pictures, comes around as I am talking to the ladies and directs us to get in close for a pic, and i rest my hand n their shoulder, making sure not to hover-hand.

My parents say it is time to go, I say goodbye to the ladies with a special handshake that I give- it is a drawn out handshake that helps maintain contact and they immediately dig it. As I am walking out the door I say "fuck it" and head back, ask them if they are going to the after party, and say that I want to roll with them. i don't like after parties, or clubs, but like I said, "fuck it" - it is early, and it is either get to the after party to interact with these or other women, or spend the rest of my night alone with my snoring uncle. I ask them if they are going to the after party, we try to work out the details and one of them offers her number. And they are at the same hotel as me!

Back at the hotel, I go for a walk, still not sure. Send a text to the women. They want me to drive them in my parents car (remember no license). I reply " don't think that's a good idea sister," and we agree to get a taxi together. At this point I send out this quick ask seddit. http://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/l5s3l/wedding_after_party_at_a_club_with_some_of_the/

You can see how it went down in my reply. I had fun on my own on the dance floor, observing everyone else's interaction as I was completely sober made me realize that I am just as worthy as anyone of hooking up, and there are men and women who are equally, if not more, awkward and desperate, as I normally would be in this situation. But not tonite. Tonite I am relaxed, no expectations, just having fun with the wedding party.

I have a great conversation with Mary about why i don't drink, and I see it imemdiatley ups her attraction to me. She says how she is impressed and proud, high-five to finger-lace. I do a name drop of a mutual friend that we know (social proof?). We hit the dance floor, have fun. She is drinking I think about offering to buy a round for everyone but hold back, and the girls actually offer to buy me a round! I ask for water. While the girls are taking pictures, a big burly guy acts like he is photobombing, I can see the burly dude is no threat, I pull him in with us and they all laugh.

I dance with Mary for a bit, take a break for a bit as another dude from the groom's side dances with her. I see he is a little awkward in his moves, and I just enjoy the show with no sense of ownership of her. Toward the last half-hour, a reggae song comes on that I like, I get back up, Mary pulls me in and from this point, we are grinding slowly and heavily, as close as can be, until the Kiss just naturally happens. So we make out while we dance.

Club close, we catch a cab back to the hotel, the four of us - me, mary, and her two friends stop at the hotel gym to hydrate. We goof around for a bit on the machines, her friends leave, expecting Mary to follow, but she stays and I stay. Just chilling on the floor. She is a little drunk, so I keep refilling her water, until she has me stand up and feed it to her. Then she pulls me in for the makeout, and, well, you know, we end up on the gym floor.

Unfortunately, she has a boyfriend, and her friends come shortly after to say that her man has been calling. So there it ended. I would say that I really enjoyed the build-up, and not expecting anything to happen makes it a nice surprise when the woman pulls you in. Maria goes back to her room, I spend a while building friendly rapport with her friends. i show some concern as to whether I offended her or something, and they assure me that it has nothing to do with me.

TLDR: Had fun, inner-confidence was good, just relaxed, and F-closed the woman I had my eye on at a wedding party.