Hi reddit,

after I had bad luck with a dream girl (see) I decided not to get stuck on her and move on. As two of my clubing-friends were invited to a small dvd evening I manned up and flew solo. As I'm not the outgoing type, this was quite a tough decision for me.

So I went to a club I've already been before. I went there quite early. Way too early. I was one of the first (at 10:45pm). I ordered a drink, tipped well and tried to do a little small talk with the bartender. Usually I'm quite bad at small talk. I asked her, if it's always that busy and what music the are going to play.

At 11:15 I saw a two HB5s sitting on a table, went up to them, introduced me and asked them I'd they go to this club often and if it's always that "busy". They didn't respond well, so I moved on.

I talked to the other bartender, but she wasn't into talking. Next I talked to two guys, which were tourists. I stayed some minutes with them talking about their jobs and so on. At this time 2 HB6s and one HB8 sat next to our table. I asked the guys, if there was a girl for them in this group to entertain the HB6s while I hit on the other girl. So I went to the girls introduces me and asked them as a opener, if they were celebrating something and it went quite well. After about 10 minutes of talking the girls left for another drink/dancing.

At around 12:00 more and more people came in and I was having quite a good time. I'm not a good dancer in any ways, but yesterday my aim was to have as much fun as possible and spent a good time on the dance floor, where I met the girls from earlier. It didn't go that well with them, but I didn't care about that.

I didn't do any more approaches, as I didn't know how to open them with such a loud music. Next time I'll use my "HI my name is Sebastian, what are you celebrating?" as my general approach opener if nothing else comes to my mind.

Summary:

I spent a good night out yesterday, didn't get any number or what else, but I'm happy with this. That is the next step for me, yesterday was just for testing if I'm having fun out alone. I'll try to flight solo as soon as possible again (maybe tonight).

The best advices I followed:

  • You are out to have fun. Act so. Smile!

  • Be there early. It's easier to talk to the girls in the beginning, as you have a good situational opener ("are you here often? If so, is it always that 'busy' at that time?")

  • Talk to the bartenders while there aren't many people there yet. Just try to get into social mood

  • Use the bar as your home base.

  • While sitting at the bar, don't look dumb, look over the crowd like you own that place.

  • While on the dance floor or at the bar, try to think of something funny from time to time which makes you simile. Other people will see that you are having a good time.

  • Do it. Go out alone. It's worth a try. All big animals hunt alone. So should you.

My questions:

I'm a bloody beginner with seduction so it is still quite hard for me to approach girls. In example, two girls are sitting alone at a table chatting for quite a long time and making a bored face.

How would you approach them? What would you use as an opener? My "what are you celebrating" (is this actually any good? :D ) won't work in this case, as they are obviously not having their best time right now.

Another example: Two girls where dancing next to me. They spent quite a long time on the dance floor. Do you approach them at the dance floor? The bar was quite crowded at that time, so I couldn't follow them when they went to the bar for a drink.

Thank you for reading :)