Girl who I really like, "might not be ready yet" after her last relationship...Do I have any possible recourse? Please help, we have a "talk" tomorrow!

jrsherrod · 2011-11-21T22:50:06+00:00

Move on. I've had a girl pull that "I like you so much I'm afraid of it," bullshit on me before. It's unoriginal and a manipulative way of rejecting someone while giving them an out for their ego. In the future I wouldn't tell a girl she was perfect for anything.

I wouldn't be rude, but I'd take the attitude of "yeah...I don't have time for this overly dramatic bullshit". She might (or might not) come around.

rmbarnes · 2011-11-22T10:44:57+00:00

I couldve likely F closed, but didnt feel like I needed to rush anything.

This is a mistake. Fuck them when the opportunity first presents itself. Things become much easier once you've fclosed.

If the two of you are having a 'talk' before you've even fucked, then this isn't good. I would have refused her request for a talk, telling her we've only just started seeing each other, and relationship style 'talks' are a bit much this early in.

AMerrickanGirl · 2011-11-22T00:10:59+00:00

Never beg someone to be with you or try to cajole them into a relationship. The more you try to change her mind, the more she'll feel pressured and the more obvious it is that you're too needy.

I'd go with the "no worries, ring me up if you're available" and off you go to enjoy your life and meet other girls.

SemanticsLogistics · 2011-11-22T06:16:09+00:00

You aren't dating exclusively, so there is no reason to say "it's you or the rest of these girls" like some are suggesting. What's wrong with continuing to date or hang out with her and also date other girls? If you feel wrong or guilty for doing that then by all means, break it off completely. However, from a social norms viewpoint there is generally no exclusivity until it is agreed upon, verbally or otherwise. If you enjoy hanging out with her, do it, just don't get stuck thinking you owe her anything beyond that if she can't do the same for you. If later on she does, then great! You're right where you wanted to be. But until then I see no reason why you should straight up drop her if you genuinely enjoy being with her. Let us know how your talk turned out.

musky88 · 2011-11-22T12:51:44+00:00

her saying shes afraid to like you, and her being out of her last relationship so quickly says to me shes still into her ex... should have closed and gave her the proper rebound

Title	Girl who I really like, "might not be ready yet" after her last relationship...Do I have any possible recourse? Please help, we have a "talk" tomorrow!
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Date	November 21, 2011 8:03 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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