Is therapy useless?

cliffhung · 2018-09-10T13:07:13+00:00

Therapists exist on a wide scale. The feminist fresh out of grad school with a newly minted degree. The personal trainer that will push you to exceed your limits. Your tough as nails grandfather with some sage advice and lots of life experience. It's all therapy one way or another. In my personal experience, men, especially young men dealing with emotional issues, often need mentorship rather than therapy.

InformalCriticism · 2018-09-10T13:34:45+00:00

Some therapists are useless.

JinkiesGangAClue · 2018-09-10T12:38:50+00:00

Therapy works for some and doesn’t work for others. Plenty of my buddies I served with have gone on to see therapists for PTSD, depression, anxiety, etc. For some it works and for some it doesn’t.

If you feel a therapist is just prolonging and issue for money, they aren’t a therapist they’re a con man. Majority of therapists aren’t like that. If you want one, find a good one.

If you think talking about your feelings or shortcomings with someone is feminine, than every social construct of communication, including this platform is feminine. You sound like you have major masculinity and social/self esteem issues.

GayLubeOil · 2018-09-10T16:33:17+00:00

I've spoken to a lot of people on this issue. The modern therapy approach seems to do well with straightforward things like addiction.

However a lot of people here are in a full blown existential crisis brought about by a rejection of Liberalism. At no point in the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy script will the underlying issue in society be addressed. Your discomfort will be addressed. But the issue will never be. Instead you will be given coping skills like breathing patterns.

boy_named_su · 2018-09-10T18:31:43+00:00

Female therapists and blue-pill male therapists are useless, so most of them

TheBadGoy · 2018-09-10T19:03:42+00:00

Anything to get out of depression is fine. Try other things like philosophy (Nietzsche, Schopenhauer) or any religion, even paganism.

menial_optimist · 2018-09-10T20:39:39+00:00

I wish Carl Jung was my therapist.

CalvinRichland · 2018-09-10T13:02:57+00:00

Some therapists don't encourage action you are correct and as you point out action actually cures depression.

cobalt1728 · 2018-09-10T16:22:08+00:00

I am seeing a therapist for my self esteem issues related to the fact that it took until 24 to lose my virginity. And he tells me anout strategies to "distract myself" from thinkong about how I am a late bloomer, amd I do not think that is very helpful.

beginner_ · 2018-09-10T16:52:24+00:00

Therapy succeeds or dies with the therapist and yourself. in this case sounds like the therapist sucks. I would probably go with a male therapist as a female therapist can't possibly related to problems young men face.

And don't forget medication. it can help albeit I would avoid SSRIs.

What in my experience helps against depression / feeling bad about oneself is discipline. I don't go lift because I enjoy it, I do it because it's a necessity and let's be honest, deep down every fat fuck knows it. So the reason you go is to not feel bad about yourself and like a weak loser.

unorthodoxcowboy · 2018-09-10T14:10:03+00:00

If you have something you need help processing, find a therapist that fits your lifestyle. For instance, a couple of years back while looking for a male therapist I found one by chance that played D1 football in his college years. Also turned out we had some views in common.

e: clarification

Musicgoon · 2018-09-10T16:47:37+00:00

I've found from dealing with a BPD ex that all therapists aren't equal.

Older therapists aren't as indoctrinated to feminist ideology. The key is to interview them.

I had a male therapist that wasn't worth a shit. But an older female therapist that really did good by me.. If they get upset with the idea of you spinning plates they aren't for a RP man.

I always ask about what they think of the Duluth wheel. If they say anything positive about it, leave immediately. They are gynocentric and will damage you..

Good luck. Also this forum is good for bouncing off ideas. We are here to help.

No1Buck · 2018-09-10T17:40:18+00:00

Yes. The majority of therapists are very left-leaning, AKA totally out of touch with reality.

821sleepingbag · 2018-09-10T14:33:21+00:00

If you have ever been you would know for things like depression it is very useful.

Therapists can help you become resilient, have high self esteem and deal with negative emotions.

All of which will increase your career success and success with women.

djh860 · 2018-09-10T17:58:19+00:00

Taking action to address the issues that confronts you is red pill. I had a therapist that had an abusive parent. She really knew how to do the work. That said most therapist just want to string you along and get paid forever.

jay_jay_man · 2018-09-10T17:31:23+00:00

I've seen a therapist once or twice. She mainly "listened" and told me to take half a pill of medication to help me sleep. The "sleeping pills" were antidepressants. Ain't about to take something that can give me suicidal thoughts just so I can sleep. I just threw myself into work, hit the weights, and burned out all my aggression. Felt alot better than talking and popping pills.

Therapy seems more geared towards woman who need to "talk things out."

assholeofthesky · 2018-09-10T17:51:25+00:00

What you read on the internet isn't always the real world.

You need a therapist that understands you, it's not that therapists are feminine most of the time, THEY ARE FEMALE.

So talk in a way that is masculine, focus on your flaws and don't deny the work of therapy just because some female therapist didn't help you.

You started improving your life with fitness, good for you, now keep on this journey, lack of excercise will make you into a useless turd.

I'm from the UK so my experience is different, but dismissing every female therapist is something that is a slippery slope. you build yourself into something new, and they give you guidelines on how to act in the world out there.

Title	Is therapy useless?
Author	Chainega
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Date	September 10, 2018 12:19 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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