For a while now I thought the root of my problems was a shitty one. I thought it was because I lost my gf of 3 years.

I now today realise it isn't really that or the lack of having a LTR. It is because I don't get to see my children. It is also because it seems one of my children may not be mine either.

I know this may be a bit bitchy or whiny but I wanted to share my situation as well as showing that finding the root of your problems can be helpful.

  • My son was hers and I met him when he was 6 months old. He is now 4 and loves me as dad. I love him as my only son I have ever had and to any man that is important.

  • My oldest daughter I'm sure is mine, unless she really was that big of a cheater.

  • My youngest daughter who I taught to walk and is just fantastic my ex claims is not mine.

I post this today because I was told I can't have my children unless the court forces her to. She also said that she is now married. Less than a year after leaving me.

The only thing I thought to say in reply was:

Congratulations. I still want to see my kids on January 21.

All I was thinking about was my kids. When my kids are here I am myself again. I don't think any man in here can claim that you should act fine even without your kids in your life. I can only act so normal without my kids in my life. They are more loved than any wife could ever be loved by any man or woman.

So to those that feel they want a LTR. What are your issues that make you upset? Is it validation? Is it the comfort of having someone by you? Or is it something real like not having your kids in your life?

Figure out if your issues are fixable or real. I don't know of too many issues that are real other than family dying or losing your kids. If you are sad because you have a shit job, then put less importance on it and put more value into what actually makes you happy.

What are your issues?

(I just lost my girl that I was dating for 4 months and actually love like crazy and then find out this information. Strangely enough, I am numb and dead inside and have no idea how to process this information other than being completely numb.)

  • Notes: Let's try not to focus on my problems here but what the message of this post is about. Finding your issues and figuring out what the hell to do about them.