Once again, an unexpected FR. I am at work, oneitis girl says she is trying to go out tonight. Some confusing language and question skirting later, I assume she just wants a girls night out. I KNOW I am running into serious inner game issue here though. I get just a tiny bit jealous when she talks about bars, even though I have every indication she does not go home with guys from bars. I would even wager I am the only major guy in her life right now.

Issue is, I should give ZERO shits about what she is doing. I know the oneitis is getting deeper. I was not sure what to do here, I still am not so much. I think a relationship would work, the chemistry is pretty good overall. I just do not want to stop pickup so much until a while after school starts.

But I digress. So I am in a pissy mood at work. Like 4 different groups to go out with, all fail to pan out like I want. Finally a girl I always go out with invites me to the local country bar. I've talked of this place before. Cute cowgirls, but country is NOT my thing at all. I don't want to go, but I know I need to go out meet more people/close to get over this oneitis. I don my typical outfit (nice button up shirt, tie, jeans, and DVS shoes) - which is entirely out of character at this bar - and roll out.

Night starts out slow, my friend meets up with her date (which I knew was happening), and leaves me with two girls I also knew beforehand and their friend HB7. 7 is cool, I play it slow but eventually ramp up kino and sexualize conversation well. By the end of the night she was kinoing me and having issue leaving my side. Should have taken it further, but interference occurred.

Later on another clique of 5 girls I know shows up, plus 1 more that joins my set. So for the record, I am friends with 10 girls at this bar. I am having a fair amount of AA due to AA and how tired I was. Then I see a solid redhead HB9 pass by with a brunette HB8 and two much older, unattractive women (we'll call them 1 and 2). Let it be known this is couples night so there is a fair amount of older people at the bar and this is not out of place.

As the HB9 rolls by, she gives me bedroom eyes hard. I instantly snap into state and smile, kick back, and keep talking with the girls around me. Shortly thereafter, I can see 1 checking me out because HB9 is talking about me. Somehow, my AA is still there. My brain says there is no good opening, but I know that is BS. About 15 minutes later I see an AFC I had met earlier talking to them, so I roll in. Right when I enter, HB9 is taken away to dance by someone I did not even see.

I say "fuck it" and converse with 1. Small talk, she mentions HB9 is 18 years old - 4 years younger than me, no big deal for me. I ask 1 to dance, assuming it is her mother (which happens at this bar, believe it or not. Family/couples night lol.) So we attempt to country dance, fail pretty hard (but we are both laughing hysterically and enjoying them hell out of it). I keep conversation on point, and realize in a very short period of time that 1 is coming onto me. Hard. Oh shit.

We head off the dance floor, HB9 is MIA. One of my friends (who I actually hooked up with a long time ago) sees the "help me" look I am shooting her and comes over with this line: "Oh, thank you so much for teaching my boyfriend how to dance!"

Fuck! Effective disarm is too good, and now I am worried 1 will tell HB9 I have a girl. I immediately start cracking up and tell 1 it is a joke, but the dance was fun and then I leave with my friend. My friend starts apologizing and says she feels so bad, I tell her don't sweat it - it will be fine. I didn't even ask this girl to wing, but I think I may have found a new wing.

Another 15 minutes pass until I see HB9 again in her full set with HB8, 1 and 2. I take a minute for AA and lack of approach dealing with 1 (who is now drunk as fuck too). One of my friend's encourages me and as soon as I get the third eyefuck/smile of the night from HB9 I roll straight up direct like a boss. No opener, just give her my name and smile like a champion.

About 2 minutes into conversation the following happens. I learn 1 and 2 are friend of HB9's mom. HB8 is HB9's sister. 1 has started calling me boyband (due to my attire), is fuckin with my tie, and generally attempting an AFOG. Handled by amplifying and friendly demeanor about the whole thing. HB9 is super embarrassed and tries fixing my tie, which I allow. I play all of this off in a friendly/teasing manner to my full advantage. Conversation picks back up, I point out about half of my female friends walking by casually. Then, get this - HB8/9's MOM rolls up. So I open/kino her myself because HB9 is to busy, and win her very quickly. A bit of conversation later, HB9 clearly has to go and says she needs to use the restroom. I give her the "I have heard that before" look and hand her my phone, dialer open. She gives me a very neutral face and types her number in, then calls it. Now I would have wholly suspected a fake number here (all previous behavior was very heavy in IoIs, but she's hot enough to just be seeking attention), but I have never heard of girls calling the fake to confirm. Thoughts? I also repeated the number back to her to get it, then bailed and let her go.

Proceeded to get props from most of the girls I was with, especially from the girl who thought she screwed it up originally. She keeps commenting on the epic comeback of the night. We will see if the number turns out legitimate or not because there girl is a SOLID 9, closing in on 10. Either way, for having music I hate the whole night, it was a fuckin blast! Now some thoughts...

Update! Lame. Just got a call from from HB9's #, was a fake. Definitely am annoyed, but also definitely think it is her loss.

  1. Sorry for the novel. I just thought the whole situation was so ludicrous it had to be explained in detail.
  2. I admit I am still highly reliant on social proof and IoIs. I have noticed that I do not open much, but when I do things almost always go very well. So my efficiency is high, but reliant on environmental factors instead of my own awesome inner being.
  3. I was worried about group conflict and did not get the HB7's number early in the night, which was a fail. ALWAYS BE CLOSING. Good thing is she is a part of my extended social circle, so I can get a hold of her if I need to - which I may do.
  4. Guys, going back to basics for a second. Learning to smile well and give excellent eye contact, then act on all of that with utmost confidence will take you places you never dreamed of. If a girl is at all attracted to you, this shit becomes witchcraft.
  5. This whole debacle actually did help my oneitis a bit, but it is still there for sure. Any tips on this? We have been going on frequent dates, had sex almost every date, but she wants to know me better before a relationship. not sure if I want fwb or ltr out of this. Basically I like what we have going right now, except I want to see her more and have irrational jealousy, which I know is downright selfish and idiotic.