Sedditors, advice on how to proceed with this girl?

PyouA · 2012-03-11T00:32:37+00:00

I'm pretty sure this is why /r/askseddit was made.

Thus far your relationship with her is seems to be pretty one dimensional (playful banter). It's almost impossible to hook up with her if you are just volleying jokes at each other and only connecting on a superficial level. You also seem to be pretty pumped about texting with her, which is a dangerous game. Texting all the time without being physical is a long road to anything physical and a quick road to being friend-zoned.

You also have to understand that although the playful, social vibe has gotten you this far, it isn't going to take you much further. If you want to get serious with this you have to change gears.

ashsimmonds · 2012-03-11T02:52:07+00:00

Watch out, I may be reading this wrong as it's hard to tell with little material, but unless you've actually been intimate with a girl the "I miss u mwah" etc texts are indications you're friendzoned.

Without going creepy/grubby, next time you're around her you'll have to escalate to a level which makes it clear that you're into her, but moreso - that it is unequivocal that she realises you believe she is completely into you.

This way if she does outright FZ you, your frame isn't "I am disappoint", it's "O RLY?" - because as you said at the start of your post "she's obviously interested in me" so it will be a surprise if she doesn't match your escalations.

TL;DR maintain the frame of mind she actually digs you as more than a friend (but don't do it over text, meet)

2012-03-11T07:28:37+00:00

Your text game is GOLD, love it + keep it up. But don't stick to text game too long. Set up a date, up the kino, if the chemistry is right (or actually, I pretty much ALWAYS go for it lol), go for the kiss close. Be fun, tease her like crazy, but just make sure you're always naturally escalating physically and emotionally.

Attraction is made out to be this super complicated formula a lot of the time. It sounds like you're doing pretty good thus far. Be her fantasy. Make the move.

healxph0enix · 2012-03-11T00:31:49+00:00

You are not too late. She is showing interest. Just keep being yourself and be bold.

2012-03-11T00:43:05+00:00

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Title	Sedditors, advice on how to proceed with this girl?
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Date	March 10, 2012 11:04 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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