A little background:

So I posted under a different name about my recent fallout with my girlfriend of a few months. Having a GF is the reason I haven't posted to seddit much recently. Anyway, she wanted to take a break, which caught me out of the blue. I got mad heartache and drank myself to sleep a few nights in a row. She assumes that I'll wait for her to decide. Fuck that. I'm a man, not an AFC bitch boy. I needed to remind myself that there are 3 billion women in the world and that this woman wasn't that special, even though she is special to me, right now, in this moment. Even though I sarged tonight.

Field Report

I told myself that I would approach 10 people/sets tonight. I told myself that it didn't matter if they were guys or gals. I just wanted to get back into the game. I wanted to remind myself that I am not alone in the world and there are good people out there willing to meet you and become your friends, lovers, and soulmates. Even though it's been about four months since I've sarged, I felt strangely comfortable. Shoulders relaxed, back straight, calm gait, etc. I saw a coffee shop owner on the street and bantered with him. Some guy from Seattle saw me on the street and thought I was his friend, and I bantered with him. A homeless guy asked me for money, and I gave him a dollar. I walk into a bar, smile at an old lonely guy and he smiles back. I say in my mind that he's going to be my warmup set as I make it to the bathroom, because I really needed to take a piss. I banter with him for a while until the band comes on. I see a couple dancing and commend them on their dancing. I notice people notice me not giving a fuck and just enjoying the music and atmosphere. I notice a cute girl come in by herself and place herself by the bar. I notice her looking at me with a curious smile, probably since I'm enjoying myself so much.

Number close

Anyway, I go up to get a drink, and she's drinking straight rum, which I made a joke out of (I think I said something like, I feel like I'm a girl and you're a man based on our drinks right now). She laughed. I turned away for a few seconds. Talked for a bit how much I liked music, and the band, and then introduced myself. Clockwork. I sip on my drink, and some big guy comes up and wants to order, so I leave my drink at the bar and let him order, ignoring the girl again and going to see the band. The drink was an anchor telling the girl I'd be back, but that I didn't need her to be entertained. I come back, ask her more about what she does, where she's from, etc. Tell her that it'd be nice to hang out sometime if she needed a friend to enjoy music (she was from out of town but came by frequently for work). "Do you have e-mail?" "Yes." OBVIOUSLY haha. I start entering her name, fumbling and just hand it to her, and she enters it in. Then I tell her to enter her phone number, she hesitates, and I tell her that I won't call her 10 times a day, I promise. Our interaction lasted about 5 minutes, she said she wasn't leaving, but wanted to go find her friends; I said okay. I tried to find her before I left, but couldn't. No worries. I'll text her in the morning. Or not. I bought the old lonely guy a drink. I don't know what counts as cheating, but I used the friend for music line to cover my ass with my GF. Along the same lines, I chose not kino escalate at all, although the girl did squeeze my arm a few times. I'm an honest man. I don't lie, and I don't cheat. I needed to go out tonight to convince myself that my GF isn't THAT special. I don't want to waste time with oneitis, and sarging certainly helps.

TLDR: Be a giver. Smile and enjoy life. Approach women. Don't expect anything, and be happy when something does happen.