there's this girl at work i've been talking to.
we talk quite a bit. pretty much every weekday, and some weekends too. she talks quite a bit about how funny i am. and i agree. every conversation she and i have together is always punctuated with lots of laughter, smiles, and eye contact. i also do the whole "story-telling" thing to show my vulnerable side and build rapport.
it's been about a month since we've "really" started talking...i havent really tried to escalate physically. although we have hugged once (she dropped me off at the casino after work. lol). and i noticed she likes to touch me. and she's also comfortable with my touch. there was actually a point in time when our legs/hips were touching when we were working on the computer together, and neither of us made an effort to move or get out the way.
how would i transition into a physical relationship? or avoid the friendzone?
qualify her? ignore her? ask her to share her personal stories with me?
we've talked about going "bachata" dancing, and i believe she is interested, but we haven't made any concrete plans yet. i think she knows that i want to go out with her, and she said "yes, lets go out." i even said one time, "no it's ok, we don't have to go out, u don't owe me dinner anymore." (i fixed her computer. her "payment" is to cook me dinner). but she was like, "noooo, i want to have dinner with you. it sounds fun." (or something similar)
anyways, i just don't want to end up being "the funny guy that always makes her laugh" but doesn't get the girl in the end.
i'm moving super slow on this one. i don't want it to burn out quickly, and shit gets awkward at work. although i can definitely see myself with her for a LTR.
oh, and also, i'm one of the higher value dudes there. although not top dog, obviously. i work in the office upstairs doing IT stuff, the majority of my "competition" works in the factory doing manual labor.
what do you guys think?
how can i not fuck it up? how can i fuck it up? is this something i should even consider from the get go? (hooking up with someone at work. although technically, i dont want to just hook up with her. i'd like to be in a relationship with her.)
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