One of the few things which boggles my mind is how to act when you approach a new woman.

There are two options:

  1. You kinda act a bit like Russel Brand, funny, talkative, goofing around, playing verbaly. The extroverted energic guy. You know what I mean.
  2. The calm Bachelor type of guy. Always talks calm, his sentences sound like basic stuff you hear in any cliche sitcom about approaching. It's lacks fun and intuitive verbal play. Everything he says is safe, it's like you dont find a flaw because he just acts standard.

I feel like the first one is bad because woman dont like to fuck clowns/comedians/funny people. And because you are so energic, she probably will be push away from you since most women are rather shy/quiet when meeting new people, at least here in Germany.

Second one feels like you do an act. It feels so fake to just act like James Bond even if you feel like it. It has a serious vibe to it which deprives fun. Which is needed for emotion, which women love. It's like no comfort. Total opposite of type 1.

What is the best type to win women over by approaching them which leads to sex or dates?