Ok Seddit, so first I must confess that I went out tonight but didn't approach a single damn girl (been in such a funk with AA lately... WTF) but I wanted to write this up to maybe help a few people.

Prerequisites:

First off, you can't be obsessed with the girl. If this is a oneitis type situation, then you already lost your chances. This girl I've been friends with for 2 years, mostly through mutual friends. We didn't hang out often and rarely one on one, but we hung out enough over the period of time where we essentially friendzoned the shit out of each other.

Start Escalating One Day

One day when we were hanging out, I just started escalating, not for any real intentional reasons, I guess I was just being an extra flirt that day. She didn't push back or anything, so I continued doing it. She would go off and talk to other guys, and that's fine with me, I have no investment what so ever so I would go and talk to other girls. Still, anytime we'd be sitting and talking I'd brush her knees, tap her playfully, hugging, and eventually dancing with them.

We wound up making out that night. Ok, cool. Broke through the first barrier.

Breaking Through

Once you break through that friend zone, it's pretty smooth sailing for the most part (not always, it could just be a one time thing, I've done that with friends before). I never texted/called/facebooked her in any way shape or form (although we had each other's numbers and have been facebook friends for a while), but anytime I saw her when a group of us were hanging out, I'd make sure to flirt with her.

Eventually, one thing continued to lead to another, and it was pretty much understood that unless we were pursuing someone else that night, we'd be making out for sure. One thing eventually led to another, and now we hook up when seeing each other.

This is straight, no strings attached fun. Even after hooking up we still don't call or anything and neither of us try to set anything up... but if we're hanging out, something is going to happen.

Moral

Moral of the story is, if you have friends who are girls that you are not SUPER close with and don't have oneitis for or anything, it may be possible to turn it into a FWB situation. I think it came with such ease because really, I didn't give a shit. I tested the waters a bit with some light flirting, didn't get jealous about other guys, and when she didn't back away from the flirting just escalated until the next thing I know we're hooking up.

Now please yell at me for having such bad AA as of late.