I was traveling to a foreign city, so first I asked r/seddit if they had any advice on where to go to meet women. I checked those places out, but they were not really my style (though one was a fun place to get drunk and converse with the locals, so thanks guys!).

On my second day, I got on to OKC. I sent out a message that basically said, "Hi [her screen name]. I'm in town until Sunday for a conference. Would love for someone to show me the city. OKC shows we match up pretty well. Check my profile out and let me know if you have any questions or would like to meet up."

I sent that out to about 10 women. I got two replies and met both women the same day.

The first, let's call her Gabby (HB5) messaged me and asked for a photo, which I did not have (I simply rather not have my picture out there on OKC for professional reasons, though this does greatly reduce the responses one tends to get). Anyway, she agrees to meet for coffee and she's not as nice as her photo, a little chunky, but is a friendly person and fun. We talk, go the park, smoke up, and she told me about some music in town and if I'd like to see it to call her later that night. I agreed that I'd check it out online and left.

I get back and woman number two, Vicky (HB7 or 8) had sent me a message, she'd be happy to show me the town (she didn't even ask for a picture). We arrange to meet at a pub (I was at first sort of reluctant since I had already one lead but she was not very sexy but it was something. Another underwhelming meet up did not sound so appetizing at the moment but I said "fuck it" and decided to meet her.... an EXCELLENT decision on my part (as you'll see below)...take chances fellas.

Okay, now here's were some PUA rules kick in, so newbies and other more experienced guys who sometimes still fuck up (which is what brought me to r/seddit... to remind myself of what works and used to do and what bad habits I sometimes get into) see if you can glean anything off the rest of the FR and maybe it will help you.

First, if you are meeting a woman out and you arrive first, have something with you like a local paper to read, or something like that. Standing/sitting at a bar by yourself waiting for someone to arrive does not look the best, not a great first impression. I take a local culture paper, stand up with shoulders back, and slowly page through it while waiting. Nothing major, but it beats sitting there with shoulders hunched over staring into space, at the bar tender, or looking around the room like a lonely tourist (which I was in fact).

She arrives and I greet her with a nice handshake and we introduce ourselves. She looks like her picture (nice). And is kind of exotic, not overweight, nice ass, lovely black hair. Feeling better already.

We each order a beer at the pub. Conversation is light. I establish good eye contact, don't lean in, get her talking about herself, and maintain good posture. She suggests a few places with music and we get ready to bounce. I say, "I invited you out, I'll pick these up" and then we both say at the same time, "the next ones are on me/you/her."

I do not see this as breaking the "never buy her a drink rule." That is for a cold approach or when a woman comes up to you and asks. Yes, don't buy her a drink. But Vicky and I are in our 40s and I did ask her to do me the favor of showing me some places. The LEAST I could do is pick up the first drink and if she wanted to continue the interaction she could be the next. GIVE THE WOMAN A CHANCE TO GAME YOU A BIT TOO.

Walking to the other place we keep talking and establish rapport. I try to stay out of interview mode while getting her talking about herself more and me talking about myself less. No kino yet (a bit too soon... with older women you can just jump into touching them sexually too soon; you need to get there soon enough though).

Next bar has a nice blues/jazz band. Time to kino a bit. Guys on here often write in, "How do you do it?" "I can't figure out how to start." Try this. You are sitting next to her and talking. Once or twice when you verbally respond to her comment do it with a light touch on the arm/shoulder. That breaks the wall. The next thing to do is get her comfortable with you in her space. Try this: if she gets up from her chair for any reason or even leans forward a bit, put your hand on the back of her chair, first on the side nearest you. When she leans back, your hand/arm is there. If she says/does nothing, you are good. Over the next few minutes do the same thing again, but this time with your hand on the far side of the back of her chair. This gets you with your arm around her when she leans back in the chair. Now, if it is early/midway into the date, do not leave it there long, it will come of as clingy, trying too hard, too soon. The goal here is to establish that you will be touching her during the rest of the evening and she will need to be comfortable with that or at least give you a signal on how comfortable she is with that. You usually can read her comfort level pretty well. And if she makes no evasive maneuvers, you can proceed to escalate over the course of the evening.

Another thing: get sex into the conversation but in a subtle way. What I did was after the singer finished a song, I said: "This music reminds of whiskey, cigarettes, and sex." She laughed, agreed.... so now sex is a possible topic thread for the evening. Things going well.

So we bounce from this bar and go to another. Though she is leading where were are going to (I'm from out of town, remember), each time we leave a place I walk in front of her out the door. I do most of the choosing of conversation topics (most about her or anything other than myself... only give her tidbits of information on you over the evening). So she is comfortable with me touching her and we have great rapport going. I offer her my arm to take as we walk and she accepts. Another step in kino that she complies with. I'm a confident guy anyway and that's attractive to women, of course, but when they continually comply with your kino escalation you should realize it is going VERY well and you can keep moving forward (check your timing, however). That is, the more kino compliance you get the more confident you should feel and act.

We get to our third bar. We sit close to each other on a bench. By this time she's accepted my arm around her, on her knee, holding her hand, etc. Again, lead conversation, get her talking about herself, eye contact, take charge of providing a sexual vibe, etc.

At this point it is getting late and I know this: I have to kiss her before we leave or it will likely be a goodnight kiss later. She has accepted me touching her, etc., so while we are talking there is very short lull in the conversation, I look at her with "you so know I'm going to kiss you now" look on my face and I do. A few short makeouts lead to a few bigger ones before we leave the club. Now, the club is closing and it is time for me to be doing the same.

We get a cab and the second we get in I say in her ear and just above a whisper (a bit sly, a bit confident, and bit cocky/funny), "You soooo need to take me to your place." She can't...two adult kids live with her (or at least she doesn't want to). So she says we should go to where I am staying (in a lent one room flat in the student ghetto near a university). We are definitely having sex and both of us know it.

Step into my room and the clothes start coming off immediately. No need for any other conversation as we both know what we are there for.

Nice tits. Tight ass. Trimmed pussy. Fuck yeah.

And we have freaky porno sex. You know all those questions on places like r/sex where they ask, "how can I get my girlfriend to do this" or "what's it a clit ring like?" or "how do you make a girl squirt?"... "my girlfriend can only take two fingers, three tops...how do I get her to take more"...and so on. All these could have been answered with a video of the crazyass fucking we did last night (and yes we did that too). She had multiple orgasms and called out to multiple deities. It was awesome.

I've been on two hours sleep and now need to go to back to the conference. I think coffee and adrenaline will be enough to keep me going today. That plus thinking about more sex with her. I'm seeing her again tonight. She insists.

Hope you find this helpful.