Desperate ex-girlfriends...

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-05-25T21:08:38+00:00

Absolutely do not let women complain to you about their problems with men. Cut that off immediately. You cannot let a girl whine to you like she does to her girlfriends, because you will become her girlfriend. You have to be sympathetic, but you have to cut it off, so say something like "I understand how you feel, but you shouldn't dwell on these negative thoughts, it's not good for you."

I do this quite often with my ex-gf. Sometimes I say almost exactly what I just recommended you to say. And sometimes you can see something click and it just shuts off. Then other times she gets drunk (she's a horrible alcoholic) and she gets completely wound up about something her asshole bf does. So sometimes I have to be a lot firmer about it, and say something like, "out of all the problems in the entire world, the one subject I'm least interested in is your problems with your new boyfriend." Result: spluttering, an angry retort, "well fine, if that's how you feel about it!" and her storming out my front door. Mission Accomplished.

cyclura · 2012-05-25T21:03:52+00:00

My ex lives out-of-state now, but whenever she's in town to visit relatives, it's kinda understood that we're going to hook-up that weekend. I think ex-sex is great but I don't get hung up on it. When she leaves at the end of the weekend, I get back to dating other women.

She and I never talk about our dating lives. I don't want to hear about hers and she doesn't want to hear about mine. I can display social proof and confidence in other ways. My suggestion would be to stop talking about your love lives and just have fun.

Act like you did when you were first dating and escalate naturally. Hold hands when you're out. She shouldn't resist something that harmless. If she says "I know where this is going", then say "Good. me too" and keep escalating. If she continues to say no then you should realize it's not going to happen and cut your losses. Get back to your dating and stop seeing her.

Like I said, ex-sex is good but it's not always possible. If it's going to interfere with your other dating then give it up. You might still be hung up too much on these girls. Ironically, you might not be able to hook up with them again until you've completely got them out of your system.

4FF41R · 2012-05-25T17:03:58+00:00

"Well, we're friends, we might as well enjoy the benefits, all of the benefits"

voyd1 · 2012-05-25T17:12:13+00:00

why are you hanging out with them anyway? Are they actually your friends? Doubt it, otherwise you wouldn't feel like sleeping with them.

If you want some action then be open about it. persistence might get you laid once and then they will either hate your guts or want to have your babies.

trixner · 2012-05-25T18:54:42+00:00

This is why I don't try to have sex with ex's or in general keep regular contact unless it's obvious and totally unexpected or random. Too much history / baggage / knowledge. Wouldn't you rather invest the energy and find someone new instead of waste it on this? Why aren't you hanging out with one of those peachy dates instead of someone you're hung up on? Also ex's are almost always a real downer on my inner game personally which is another reason to stay away.

Sabibaby · 2012-10-19T02:14:33+00:00

I'm actually wondering if your care more about being friend-zoned than being in a peachy dating life style?

this seems ambiguous...

budguy68 · 2012-05-26T04:54:30+00:00

Only time i ever hang out with EXes is to refuck them. Relationships to me are just social constructs. But if you enjoy hanging out with them i dont see anything wrong with it.

Title	Desperate ex-girlfriends...
Author	rococo78
Upvotes	8
Comments	9
Date	May 25, 2012 4:54 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/u4oz5/desperate_exgirlfriends/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/desperate-ex-girlfriends.1333171 https://theredarchive.com/post/1333171

Comments