Is there a risk of showing too little interest?

Gravel_Roads · 2018-09-19T12:29:16+00:00

How exactly do you intend to escalate if you don’t even show interest? You do have to give off the sense you at least like her, or I’m not sure what her incentive to be around you is supposed to be.

Not giving validation is like... not following her around and mindlessly agreeing with her/flattering her in hopes that it’ll get her to fuck you. You’re still allowed to be engaging and fun to talk to. It would, in fact, behoove you to do so.

MrGoodStuff05 · 2018-09-19T13:40:36+00:00

This is a good mentality to have but you gotta find a middle ground between keeping it cool and giving them free validation. The trick is to reward good behavior. You want to show some interest, and if she reciprocates then you give her some validation. An example would be something like... say there's a girl you been talking to and you invite her out for drinks. She says yes, that's good, you can give her some validation when she shows up. If her body language is positive and she's touching you etc... give her validation. If she's distant and just checking out the people at the bar, looking away, not focusing on you etc... then play it cool, be cold, leave and find another one DJ Khaled voice

morescoobysnacks · 2018-09-19T12:44:52+00:00

Ultimately, people have to benefit from your frames to consistently accept them. Women accept our frames because we make them feel good and safe. Employees accept out frames because we ensure their future. Friends accept our frames because we accept theirs and we'd take bullets for eachother.

Women cherish compliments from men of perceived higher value. They're neutral or disgusted by compliments from men of perceived lower value. So guys new to the game think you should never buy girls shit, never compliment them, just be Wesley Snipes in Blade and give nothing ever, because internally they feel that women are above them and doing these things makes them feel like they're admitting as much.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-09-19T17:14:17+00:00

You want to have a good balance of push / pull. You just need to know when to push or when to pull. If you don't show any interest, she's going to think that you don't have any game, or if she has low confidence, she's going to think that you're not into her and she'll go drain attention from someone else.

MattyAnon · 2018-09-19T15:31:53+00:00

I keep playing it cool

Do you then fuck them? If so, no problem.

Do you not fuck them? If so, this could be your problem.

Title	Is there a risk of showing too little interest?
Author	bondbandito
Upvotes	5
Comments	26
Date	September 19, 2018 12:21 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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