Seddit, please help me out. I am a woman wanting to learn kino but not for seduction. I need info please!

2012-07-05T22:53:14+00:00

On the side bar there's this link about kino. Not sure if it's entirely relevant to you but worth a look.

edgar_alan_bro · 2012-07-05T22:55:53+00:00

If you want to develop closer bonds with people the things you are looking at should be eye contact and kino (as you've guessed).

A quick touch on the arm or the back whilst emphasing a point goes a long way.

Keep good eye contact with a smile also gives people a feel of comfort around you.

Also look into mirroring. If you can learn to mirror people you can get them to take more relaxed body language positions which can actually lead to their mental state becoming more relaxed. (You can have some real fun with mirroring... I went to an interview the other day and practically made my interviewer do a slow dance for fun).

imseanpatrick · 2012-07-06T10:57:09+00:00

Why would you want to make a man who's not comfy around you comfy? If he can't handle it I'd move on but that's just a guys opinion right ;)

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-07-05T22:54:49+00:00

I have never heard of any kino instructions specifically for women. It is sort of assumed that women know this stuff, because women generally have more nonverbal communication skills than men.

But I think you can learn from the usual male-oriented kino methods. Just watch the women's reactions more closely, in the demonstrations. I particularly recommend Lance Mason's 10 part video series on YouTube, How To Kino.

You might also benefit from reading general books on body language. This would help you observe other peoples' body language and connect with it. I particularly like the book "What Every BODY Is Saying."

ImKumarYo · 2012-07-05T23:09:26+00:00

If you're looking for baby steps, start touching the person's elbow when you speak to them or thank them. Just a little touch to let them know what you're saying is directed at or pertinent to them. Really goes a long way in making a girl come off as friendly and comfortable.

skyshock · 2012-07-06T00:55:24+00:00

kino aside, just from reading your post, when you mentioned how others described you as being cold, the first thing to came to mind was whether you smile or not. this is something i am actively working on as well, as i tend to not smile much when im walking by myself, or around new people. if you do smile, great. if not, its definitely something to work on alongside kino-ing and eye contact.

kissacupcake · 2012-07-06T01:27:28+00:00

Smile! Smile! Smile! Genuinely so, as you smile think how much fun you are having, and what a surprise that someone is talking to you and tell yourself I wonder what interesting background this guy have.

Your general expression and your smile reflects your inner thoughts.

Manicure, little makeup. Long polished nails; move slowly. Hold the guy's forearm with your hand and squeeze just enough with your fingers so that he feels your fingernails.

If you want to drive him crazy:

run your fingernails up and down his spine
run your fingernails on his scalp
whisper something in his ear
touch his knee, squeeze the inside of his thighs with your fingernails, as far up as you feel comfortable given the place where you are.

darenas · 2012-07-06T03:58:54+00:00

I think one of my somewhat ditsy girlfriends always likes to gently tap/slap my arm or shoulder if I tease her or give her a hard time. That works for her because of her character. She gets away with light punches as well. It all depends on the atmosphere and what you are doing. There are a lot of ways to touch hands with another person. Handshake, bump, high five, holding hands, making him twirl you around, whatever.

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