First of all, I'm no PUA. I've been on a journey of self-improvement over the last couple of years. Three years ago I would drive to college and sit in my car all day because of social anxiety. I failed 12 classes and had to beg the board for another chance. That's when I began to actively engage my fears. I forced myself into public speaking situations and just recently played the lead role in live theatre. This isn't a sob story. I've made significant progress socially, I even have people compliment me on how self-assured and confident I am. Whup-de-do, I'm not blowing my own trumpet I'm just trying to give some idea of the backstory to this. I worked fucking hard to get where I am now but I've neglected the intimacy side of things.

[Here's the bit where I get to the point] I've been flirting with a girl in a circle of friends for the past couple of weeks at social events and stuff, there's definite chemistry there. There's playful competitiveness, snuggling initiated by both me and her, eye-fucking to beat the band, I even got a massage the other night. I know there's something there. I was going to hers tonight for small gathering and I had already planned how I was going to ask her out. Thing is, there's this other guy there.

Apparently there's been a couple of dates. I know fuck all else except they sat side by side for the whole night with very little interaction. She looked bored even. She was still engaging with me, grabbing me with her eyes, joking, touching, she lights up with me. She was giving me far more attention than him.

My question is this, what's the next move? I want to ask her out, I could care less about this other guy. I could use advice on how to go about it. Do I read into the fact she probably knew I was coming and invited this guy along? Is that a play to make me jealous or is it a bad sign? Do I acknowledge the other guy and try be diplomatic about it when I ask her out? Do I just ignore him and ask her out as though she had no one else?

I'm open to the possibility that she was just being friendly and she digs this other guy but I should let her tell me that right? Rather than accepting defeat?

TL/DR; Hesitated over asking a girl out, now I met the other guy. How do I ask her out? Should I even ask her out?