Hi Seddit!

Long time lurker here, but, after this weekend, I decided to make an account to share some of my experiences with inner-game development and just how much this community has helped me to improve myself.

I’d like to preface this post by saying that I was AFC (recovering currently) for a very long time; though I had my share of girlfriends throughout high school and the beginning of college (I am 21 and about to enter my senior year of college/ university in the states) I never truly considered myself an attractive person. I stumbled and tripped through these relationships and hookups, many of them I consider to be the result of luck and alcohol-lubricated situations. Throughout this time, I had very little confidence, always compared myself to others, felt jealousy very easily (especially with girlfriends) and became depressed quite often.

Recently, however, I made the decision to break up with my girlfriend, who has been overseas studying abroad for a few months. We never fought before she left, but once she was gone issues with my jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurity erupted. I came to a realization that I was not happy with myself once I found /r/Seduction and began reading about inner game. Since breaking up with her, I’ve tried to focus on becoming a better person, living life for me rather than seeing a girlfriend as the be all and end all. The result blew my mind.

This stuff actually works.

I started slowly by smiling more, standing up straighter, looking people in the eyes, firm handshake, etc… I got back into the gym, started eating healthier, took up new hobbies (going rock climbing tomorrow, very excited!) and I, overall, just began to feel happier. I felt comfortable with myself after realizing that the only opinion about me that matters is my own.

I’m not the only one who noticed this change though. Female friends and acquaintances of mine began complimenting me, even saying that I seemed more confident. I got compliments on my manner of dress, my positive demeanor, and a whole range of other things. I became confident enough to approach women during the day, which is something I’ve never done before, and just strike up a conversation!

This past weekend I went out expressly for the purpose of having fun with my friends. I made it a point to talk to everybody at the house parties/ BBQs I went to on both Friday and Saturday and just be as social as possible. I remembered everyone’s names and focused on having a good time with all these new people I met. I got involved with the different social circles that were there and played beer games/ chatted. I DHV’d (not sure if that’s the correct use) by using my cooking talent to grill up some delicious food (HB7 I was flirting with challenged me to a cooking contest).

The result of all this was two-fold.

First, I F-closed two different girls, one on Friday night and one on Saturday night. Both of these girls I had previously been somewhat friendly with but I would not consider us close. However, I did not go into detail about these closes because I see the second result of this weekend as far more monumental.

I realized that I have the power to be charismatic, I have the power to be confident, I have the power to make people laugh, I have the power to make people open up and have fun, I have the power to engage anyone I want, I have the power to make a woman sexually aroused. By just being myself and focusing on being the best person I can possibly be, I can proudly say that my life has improved tremendously.

I have a long road ahead of me. My goal was not, and still is not, to become a pickup artist. My goal was to be comfortable with me, the best me, and Seddit has helped me on my journey towards this. Sure, being able to attract women feels great, and I will absolutely continue to do it, but just knowing and accepting who I am, as well as striving for improvement, has helped me overcome my insecurities and become a happier person in general. For all you doubters out there, I hope you can see this post as a small bit of encouragement to go out and make that first approach, or smile at that cute Starbucks barista, or whatever. Just do something, and do it for you.

TL;DR – Thanks Seddit, you’re fucking awesome!

EDIT: for readability.