DAE have trouble gaming while other people are listening?

HelloHiHello · 2012-08-04T19:08:09+00:00

You have a hard time spitting game because your concentration is split. You're not focused on the interaction, so it's naturally going to go downhill.

That doesn't happen when there are a bunch of people around, because it feels normal and even if someone is listening in, you can't be sure. But when it's you, a girl and a bouncer, you KNOW the bouncer is listening in, so you become conscious of it.

A good tip is to bring the watcher into the conversation some way. Just very briefly. Say something to the girl, then look at the bouncer and say, "isn't that right?" and smile. He'll nod and then you can go back to talking to the girl.

But now the bouncer is "in" the conversation. No, he's not talking to you guys, but he's no longer an uninvited watcher. You've invited him to watch, so you're not conscious of it anymore.

Dildo___Baggins · 2012-08-04T21:29:48+00:00

I don't know your internal psychology at all, but let me take a stab at it.

You're probably worried what other people think, or afraid of failing publicly. Fuckthat. You don't need validation or approval from anyone but yourself. Be true to yourself- you're just picking up- and salt the garden where you grow your fucks. Just flirt and do your thing, listeners be damned.

rococo78 · 2012-08-04T22:41:14+00:00

I think you should just do the pullaway...put your hand behind your back, or grab her hand and signal with your eyes/head to, come over here..lead her somewhere, within a few feet.. and she'll know what you're doing...I know what you mean, sometimes, you can tell someone is obviously listening in...especially if its a friend, you may get a cockblock.. also, try whispering in her ear, which will also give her goosebumps, but only if you've already got somewhat of a rapport with her.

Casual-T · 2012-08-05T05:05:25+00:00

I sort of know what you mean, but at the same time, I wouldn't worry about others listening in. For example, when I go out with friends, I straight up tell them that I'll be running game tonight and they usually end up cheering me on or even helping out as they watch. I'm fine with that.

Random strangers on the other hand might be a little different, but honestly, just keep your focus on the target and if you become aware that a person is listening in, just think to yourself "hah, they probably wish they were me right now" etc. etc.

Itstheeyes · 2012-08-05T16:19:33+00:00

I know that feel bro.

I was on holiday a few months back and I saw a girl I recognised from the flight over. I waved over at her and got her to come sit with me and my group. So I'm chattimg away to her and the entire table is listening in. It shook my game a tad, but then people at the table started commenting on my game. "Oh look, hes giving her the eyes!" or kicking me urging me on. I was sitting there thinking "what the hell is literally everyone doing??" "They all know I don't have trouble doing this, jeez."

Then to top it all off one of them walks right up to me and whispers (loudly) asking if I had any condoms.. I was flabbergasted. Pretty quickly I suggested we head into a club, enroute I isolated ourselves from the judging panel and made my move.

Title	DAE have trouble gaming while other people are listening?
Author	rococo78
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	August 4, 2012 3:59 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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