I was recently on a date where the girl asked me what I wanted to do with my life, so I told her about how I'm studying math/computer science with hopes of becoming a tech entrepreneur of the likes of Peter Thiel and Elon Musk. Later on, we were talking about music and I mentioned that I wanted to be part of an indie band as a keyboardist and tour across America. Since she loves indie music, I thought that she would be enthused by this and it would open a whole new thread of conversation, but instead she sort of just said 'That's cool' and changed the topic.

I think that because I had already talked at length about my more 'nerdy' ambitions, she characterized me in a certain way and as such didn't think my incongruent other dream was fully genuine. I think the facts that I'm Asian and somewhat reserved probably have something to do with it too.

Some people on this /r/ recommend acting as congruent to what you say as possible, but my academic/career interests only demonstrate a fraction of who I am (yes, I'm a nerd to some degree, but I could also be considered a jock since I play rugby and lift, or a musician since I compose music) and the last thing I want to do is pigeonhole myself into a certain stereotype. I'm just a college sophomore in transformation from AFC to alpha, so I'm exploring different things and haven't yet carved out a consistent identity let alone convey it to others.

TL:DR How do you properly convey different 'layers' of who you are when they are seemingly at odds with each other? It seems many people are quick to form opinions of others and can become confused/suspicious when those opinions are at conflict with what that person says or does.