The next time you're standing there looking at a girl and doubting whether you should go over and talk to her, ask yourself this: "What is more valuable to me?"

You need to decide right now if kissing a girl, having sex with her, and going on fun dates is worth more to you than avoiding a few seconds of awkwardness. Not just with this girl, but every girl you ever meet. It's all going to boil down to the same question with every female you meet from now until you die -- are you willing to face the possibility of some temporary embarrassment?

Nearly everyone shares your anxieties. But that means that a willingness to step up and take a risk sets you well apart from the crowd. The men who are successful in pickup, and indeed in life, are the ones who will accept a little embarrassment now and then in the greater interest of pursuing what they want.

So, what's more valuable to you?