Having trouble thinking with the D...

baianobranco · 2012-08-26T02:02:02+00:00

I used to have the same problem. I literally blew a chance to have sex with one of the hottest girls I know because I was naive.

I think it stems from being an attractive person who didn't previously have many romantic/sexual relationships with girls.

It really is just going to take some practice and clarity of mind to identify when attraction is there and when to pursue. It will come the more these situations happen. Also, remember just because you didn't act on it that one time doesn't mean you can't in the future.

She probably isn't thinking, "man what a fucking loser, I was throwing myself at him and he didn't act."

She is probably thinking, "What do I need to do to get him attracted to me? I was practically throwing myself at him, he must be used to that, I mean he is very attractive."

2012-08-26T03:42:24+00:00

Hey one of the problems with /r/seduction is the emphasis on going out to just make friends/enjoy yourself etc. While valuable advice, especially for beginners, if you are actually looking for big success with girls and getting in the life/mindset of a PUA, it is a very slippery lope.

Look everyone has their own methods, however, even if you look at Tyler Durden, there is quite good evidence that going out with the mindset that, "tonight I'm here for sex," (or I'm getting laid, I'm the most alpha male here and the girls will know it and will want to have sex with me,) is better! Because naturally, you will give the right vibes, the right body language, and subconsciously say the things/steer the conversation to that direction. So that missed opportunities don't happen, but what might happen is opportunities that you tried and failed. If you had this slightly in your mindset, you would have been escalating kino, and it would have been natural for you to ask her to come with you. No "oops, I forgot. I was just being friendly/the life of the party/etc."

Sometimes it's good to know what you want, and have the confidence and presence of mind to put that in your head before you go to do something.

This is however dangerous for this subreddit, as someone not prepared to act according right principles, could interpret it completely differently, and instead end up being just another AFC. Failing by just going for the sex.

Maybe try this once. Go with the explicit purpose in your mind of, I am going to have sex with a girl of my choosing tonight.

no hard feelings /r/seduction.

EDIT: I will attempt to locate that tyler durden video for you.

EDIT2: Nvrmnd. Here is the video I am talking about: link

2012-08-26T01:48:58+00:00

Hey man. Regret is an interesting animal. However, I think that you should go with what comes naturally, and the message that I try to take out of Pick Up and Seduction is to go with what comes NATURALLY to you. That being said, I think it takes time to figure out what natural is. For me, natural ISN'T avoiding that cute girl I wanted to talk to because I am afraid that she'll shut me down. But, NATURAL also isn't boning every chick that gives me the go-ahead. Granted, I'm no expert and I haven't bedded SCORES of women, but I have passed on several opportunities, and I might have felt pangs of regret, but ultimately found that I wouldn't have been being true to who I am if I would have banged some rando that I didn't really know. That's just me. So, I say think with whatever you want to think with, and only let it become a problem if you are truly unfulfilled. If you like getting to know women (plural! don't do an unhealthy one-itis type of thing) then get to know women! As long as YOU are happy.

D33D33 · 2012-08-26T09:43:21+00:00

I used to be the EXACT same as this, after you make the moves a couple of times you really get comfortable with it in the future. It's especially hard after you've been in relationships for a while and arent used to making a move on a new person.

Basically, you need to just man up and go for it. Sorry.

iStoned · 2012-08-26T00:30:03+00:00

Capitalize on those opportunities man! She had her hand on your thigh. Keep escalating and BAM!

The thing is, regret hurts more than rejection, since rejection is final, but regret can pick away at you.

Next time you're out, as Nike says, "Just Do It."

You'll thank me.

Title	Having trouble thinking with the D...
Author	crazydaze
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	August 26, 2012 12:23 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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