I've just been getting back into pickup after dating a girl exclusively for about 6 months. I approached HB7 on a park bench but it literally took me 10-20 minutes to work up the balls. Ended up talking to her aimlessly for 15 minutes or so and ended with the FU number. "Hey, we should hang out some time. When are you free?" blah blah blah "I'll just give you my number." Flake.

Next day was easier, randomly ran into a friend's ex which put me in a good social place, then did approach two HB8s. Then I walked around and chickened out approaching a tall HB8.5 at the grocery store. I did get one number but... "I'll just give you my number" basically means "I'm never going to text you" as far as I can tell.

Today I bike around a lake for a while, with half a mind to approach some girls but didn't really see anyone that tugged on my stones (mostly mom-types around the lake) so I just headed home. I was about to give myself a break and hang out for a while, then I realized how busy I am this weekend, meaning if I didn't approach someone today I was going to lose my momentum, which could be depressing.

So I was walking by my corner and a thin blond HB7 in jogging uniform walks by. There was eye contact and a little electricity and I say hi, but she has earbuds on and doesn't respond. I stop and try to decide if I should approach. Okay, so obviously I should, but my bitch butterflies are trying to talk me out of it. Brunettes are more my type so I'm trying to talk myself out of it.

Eventually I convince myself that I'll be better off if I just get it over with rather than walk around like a bitch all day. This takes 5-10 seconds so I have to jog a bit to catch up with her. I'm approaching from behind and she earbuds deaf so I start walking past and right as she sees me out of the corner I touch her elbow and step back a little so she has to turn back. I'm not smooth enough to turn her all the way around so I step back a little afterwards.

I open her with a direct approach "You're cute and I just wanted to introduce myself." Give that a beat to sink in (she's clearly flattered) and introduce myself "Hi I'm throwdownunder." She asks me if I live in the area and forgets to tell me her name. I take this as a good sign (she must be a little flustered) and just ask. We chitchat a bit, but I rein it in and try to go a little deeper to connect. Mainly we talked about what we do and hobbies and I tell her what made me want to pursue my career as a child and ask her if she can relate. She has a different story, but that clicks with another childhood memory of mine, so I share.

It's going well, but I'm not going to take most of the credit because she's doing most of the work. Anyway, if she wasn't in to me, I would have tried to connect a little more, but I think we're fine so instead I just say "Hey, we should hang out some time. Are you free some evening next week?" She doesn't know her schedule and works nights so there's some back and forth but I just wait until she coughs up night that works for her and I tell her to meet me by a coffee shop by my place. I frame it as, "I'll be doing some work, stop by at 7:00" so that it's less of a big deal. She had originally suggested a weekend night I shake her hand and say goodbye.

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As she's walking away I'm like OH SHIT I forgot to get her number. I've always been against getting the number instead of just making plans, but I HAVE set up a date and forgotten to get a number and you can imagine how that works out. Also since she doesn't remember her schedule, she might have a legit conflict and not have a way to tell. Fortunately she's still within earshot, so I just say "HEY" and grab her number real quick, then say bye AGAIN. Heh.

All in all feels good man. Again, I'm going to chalk this one more up to her being into me than the exact dialogue, BUT I have to give myself some credit for being attractive and confident about it. I won't say I was the smoothest criminal (I noticed a half voice crack or two during the convo) but I felt like I held my postured and was slow paced and my timing and conversation focus was better than before. Would not have been possible if I hadn't sat down and analyzed my other conversations and really thought about why there was no connection and why those girls were able to easily write me off.

Oh I texted her right away with something jokey (she had asked me to text her but I would have anyway) and she did text me back, so we're already better off than the last two numbers. Hmmm, halfchub. (Did I mention I'm on nofap? Seems to be helping with motivation.)