I'm not a guy who gets a ton of play. But tonight a girl actually invited me out to a bar with her friends and I turned her down.

Why? I"d be lying if I said I didn't feel going out, but a lot of it too was just that when I go out now I feel like I'm running game instead of enjoying myself.

It's like golf almost. You have to keep your head down, don't bend your elbow, don't roll your wrist, keep your knees bent, twist that torso, follow through, end up on your front foot, etc. And then you realize you're so busy keeping everything straight you forget to have fun.

I don't know what to do. I mean being serious and doing this works, but at what cost? I mean it won't do much good when I don't even want to go out because I don't have the energy to stay so extremely mindful.