So my whole life I've pretty much sucked with girls. If I saw a hot girl I'd put my head down and look the other way. In Seddit terms I had some serious inner game issues.

But in the last few months I found Reddit. And then I found Seddit (an equal shoutout to /r/Buddhism). I've been reading the advice on here, and since I have everything in my head has opened up and just makes more sense. I feel like I'm okay with who I am now, which is completely relaxing and rewarding in and of itself.

So I decided to take this new mindset of mine out to the bars. I still wasn't feeling all that confident about my sexuality even just the other night, but I felt a lot more relaxed and comfortable with being me as a person. So my main goal of the night was to not have any expectations: no kisses, numbers, f-closes, forced conversation, nothing (that was something I got from r/Buddhism), I was only going to have a few beers and enjoy a beautiful summer night with some of my good friends.

Then, even before I started thinking about going up and talking to anyone I started seeing results. But not just results...crazy good results. My formula was simple: Chest out, smile, be friendly, look girls in the eyes when I talk to them, and engage in some kino when it made sense to me.

From this point on the night is just a blur of awesomeness. Almost as soon as I started being like this in the bar girls were making eye contact with me like crazy, smiling back, etc. Even the really hot girls who wear almost nothing but pretend you don't exist were looking at me! One came over to talk to me, but was really drunk and told me I reminded her of someone else she knew. It was nuts though--something that has NEVER happened to me in 28 years of my life was unfolding before my eyes. I even had two girls who after only talking to them for maybe 10-15 minutes told me they thought I was cute. That's happened maybe that many times to me before in my whole life. It was so overwhelming I couldn't even believe I was myself. The highlight of the night was when I met up with this one hot girl I used to work with. Being friendly I started talking to her but this time she seemed way more interested in me and gave me "her new number." (I never had her old one).

This happened a few days ago and I'm still in shock. We've all been around that guy in our life where no matter where he goes women check him out. And if you're anything like me, you always think, "God, I wish I could be him!" Well you can! It's behavior that can be learned, I promise! You may not believe me until it happens to you, but when it does, you'll see. Just don't give up and you'll thank yourself later so many times over. :-)