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| 1 | Should I halt trying to pick up girls whilst I'm using Invisalign for 6 months- a year?I mean this in the nicest way but I think you'll find other people just aren't paying close enough attention to you to care. | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 08:19 PM |
| 1 | I'm too impatient and I think its one of the things that has an effect on my interactions with women/people in general, any advice to work on this?Patience can't be learned. It is a "dumb" trait. All you can do is remind yourself of it as much as possible. I can tell you that you'll drive yourself crazy trying to be patient. The irony is you have to be patient to the idea of being patient (grrr). Give it time, treat the moments where you slow down as a gift. They will start coming more and more often. Stay positive about the idea of gaining patience and just...flow. | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 04:50 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to flirty snapchats?Show her everything but your dick. For real. I know it sounds silly but I started posing myself a bit one day and realized even my scrawny ass can look kind of hot if I pick certain angles. And then I'll just keep some boxerbriefs on that show off a bit or be naked but no weenie. TBH the hotter you are the more selfies will be hot. It's not really fair but when it comes to looks/beauty this is a woman's world. Be a tease. Even when you're giving people what they want leave something for real tim… | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Women of Seddit, why do you value confidence so highly in guys?No woman but people like confidence because it makes them feel confident. Emotions are contagious. | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 04:41 PM |
| 0 | How do you stop getting crushes and getting needy to girls you hardly know?I actually think this is a good thing. You can't fake desire and you like lots of women. From there I would actually work with your clinginess. Sounds crazy but go ahead and admit you're a boyfriend who likes to take care of his girl and be around her a lot. A lot of girls like these sorts of guys, we all have friends who disappear when they get gfs. It's okay. I guess what I'm trying to say is own the shitty parts of yourself. It may not work as a beginner but it will get you over that feeling … | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 09:13 PM |
| 12 | You are the prize. Never forget that.It needs to be said that you don't want to value yourself too highly or people won't bother with you. It sounds crazy but even if you're the prize you're still going to have to do certain things whether you want to or not. This isn't an invitation to quit striving to be an impressive person or to stop trying to put your best foot forward. | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 09:06 PM |
| 20 | You are the prize. Never forget that.I find there's a huge correlations between whether or not I hook up with a girl and whether or not I truly think I'd be an awesome partner for her. | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Advice for picking up at yogaStay late in class a few times. It's not creepy to be curious. I gave I find a lot of my flirting comes from being curious about who the girl is. Slowly introduce yourself and who you are too them. | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Request: ways of engaging with girls sitting opposite on the tube/subwayHonestly yeah. But that's no excuse to not try. I say you give it a shot, I mean what if you come up with a methods to teach us lol Have some conversations about yoga. It's fun, you may learn some stuff | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 08:56 PM |
| 0 | Request: ways of engaging with girls sitting opposite on the tube/subwayThere may not be a way, man. You can try and just go for it but that's really awkward and it's just going to work on a girl-to-girl basis. In the beginning part of all this you aren't really seducing a girl as much as you're seducing a whole situation. This situation isn't very sexy at all and it has nothing to do with you or her. Having other people around in a position to watch/listen to you is really unattractive. | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Polite way to restart communication?They don't care about you that much to pay that close of attention. They'll think, "Aww." and text back or they'll think, "Meh." and not text back. That's it. Emotional/intimate connection is what this is all about, not sex (that's just the result of the intimacy). | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 05:20 PM |
| 3 | [For Pros] What happens after you have slept with enough # of women that you thought you could never have?Saying it's a drug is totally right. I actually stopped flirting with girls for a year or two because I felt like an addict of their positive attention (I'd get so bummed out after rejections I quit until I didn't crave it anymore). I needed to make sure that it was something I didn't depend on for my emotional well-being. As a drug I'd say to "use" women sparingly. Make sure it's a mutual benefit thing, don't allow yourself to stay in negative situations too long, etc. Typical good relationship… | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 05:17 PM |
| 1 | Polite way to restart communication?I'm not but lastly I'll say that it's not a big deal to embellish your feelings as long as there's a grain of truth. It's not a lie, it's just more engaging. If you think all the times in your life someone has told you they miss you that they actually meant it and weren't doing the same thing you're wrong. | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Polite way to restart communication?You mean like if you had talked to her a month or so ago? lol | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Polite way to restart communication?Don't listen to me, listen to yourself: I am guilty of using "hi" sometimes on dating websites, but I don't lack creativity either. Just lazy sometimes. But I think the key factors to getting away with a "hi" is to vary it as much as possible with each girl; it helps if you look good on the profile pics; and it helps a lot if you know how to follow up with interesting conversation. I probably have it too easy. I don't know :/ It's not wrong, just basic, but you probably just have it too easy lik… | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 04:50 PM |
| 0 | Polite way to restart communication?Ok whatever. It sounds to me like you need to leave it up to the girl to decide. There's literally almost no difference between what you said and what I said except for yours sounds like a generic first reply on Tinder and mine sounds like its from someone who has actually met her, liked her and wants to see her again. You can miss someone without it being all super profound, lovey dovey crap. Seriously, you're taking emotional states and words too seriously. This is a lot more ethereal than tha… | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 10:24 AM |
| 2 | Advice for picking up at yogaBecome buddies with the instructor if she's female. She doesn't have to think you're hot, just that you're a good student. Genuinely try to learn the yoga because it will help your game in a real but roundabout way. Bonus points: you can use the same breathing and mind techniques you learn in yoga while having sex for some awesome sex and happy girls. As far as flirting with girls in class? You're going to need some yoga "street cred" first. Going in there first day flirting up the place is a ba… | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 10:04 AM |
| 0 | Polite way to restart communication?You are taking this too seriously. The creepy part is putting way too much meaning behind your words. It's not what you say but how you say it. She's not dumb and she'll know better but you need to at least not make her feel like some slut you want to fuck but don't want to think about. He obviously IS thinking about/missing her or he wouldn't be posting this. | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 09:43 AM |
| 0 | Polite way to restart communication?Oh well I'd still do it. I want her to think I've had her on my mind even if my actions haven't been reflecting that. I'm just saying if you have been ignoring a girl for a while you at least try to make it seem like you were thinking about her. She wants to feel special, it's never too late to start. Edit: I've gotten texts from girls after 6 months...they don't care if they're interested and don't have anyone else they're currently into. | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Request: ways of engaging with girls sitting opposite on the tube/subwayThis isn't true, you just need to keep it super innocent. Like even eye contact can be too intense. But conversation can still be fun as long as you don't seem very enthusiastic about it and just like you're trying to pass time. That being said I'd feel very awkward if I felt like people were listening in on and watching me getting hit on. You need to do it in a place where people aren't watching y'all, like a much less crowded bus or something. | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 09:36 PM |
| 43 | Eye contact is the closest thing to a 'miracle pill' in pickupI don't think there's one magic pill but this is one of about three. Eye contact Optimistic attitude about life in general Seeing sex/relationships/intimacy as fun, playful and enjoyable. How crazy it sounds even things like having a job or taking a shower don't really matter as much as these three things. | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 09:30 PM |
| -2 | Polite way to restart communication?"What's up?" "I miss you, we need to hang out." People like feeling missed, it's not creepy. | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Anyone managed to improve/change their voice to something more 'seducing'?I really wouldn't sweat it if it isn't you. The important thing is to have that tone in your voice like you're telling someone a fact. It makes people interpret what you say with more authority and truth. | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 07:52 PM |
| 4 | [FR] Asked out a lesbian at the gymYeah man not to get all preachy but I think you need to take people up on hanging out even if there's no sex involved. I've found that was a huge sticking point for my inner game, that feeling that women are for "sexual relationships." Also hanging out with a SUPER hot chick just once will tell you so much about game. Just stay quiet, see how she rejects men, see how she approaches or accepts other women. | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 07:49 PM |
| 2 | i'm great at opening terrible at closingIf you're looking for something that helps you be a better boyfriend I'd say that's really where Mark Manson style game comes into play. Truthfully it doesn't matter what physical checkpoints you've passed, the deeper a relationship gets the more honesty, genuineness and transparency come into factor. You have to show her the loser parts of yourself along with the winner parts--the whole package. | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 07:10 AM |
| 6 | Crazy "theory" I observed after a few years of small talk and some experiments. I call it verbal peacocking...Say I'm inside at the counter and someone's getting ready to pay. I show them their pizzas, they look really good. So I say, "That pizza looks amazing" and they may autopilot nod, but then I'll say something jarring, like "I'm sorry I have to take this pizza from you." They'll usually look up to see me with a shit-eating grin on my face, and then I tell them I think this pizza is too good to give away. They laugh but from there they're "awake" so I'll say "Just kidding," stop, and ask them what … | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 01:01 AM |
| 3 | How do you separate confidence from arrogance?To me arrogance is compensation for overshadowing fear. It's when you're acting confident, but since none of us are winning any acting awards people can usually tell. As a generic rule try to be confident with yourself inside your head and not do things outside to make it look like you're confident. This is an generalization but it works well. As a personal process confidence for me wasn't some switch. I slowly started finding this place in my brain from time to time that I could go to, my own r… | /r/seduction | 07/08/16 08:11 PM |
| 16 | Crazy "theory" I observed after a few years of small talk and some experiments. I call it verbal peacocking...It's not what you do as much as how you do it (like you're genuinely interested in who they are and what their answer is). Personally I like to stay curious. I've asked some girls really personal questions about who they are as a person and usually they don't mind answering as long as you stay in a judgement-free mindset. Anything weird works though. Since the point isn't to be attractive you don't have to worry about that. A really generic one is to lean in to a girl and say, "You wanna know a … | /r/seduction | 07/08/16 06:35 AM |
| 4 | Crazy "theory" I observed after a few years of small talk and some experiments. I call it verbal peacocking...Oh people talk about me being their backs and I've heard some of it. Part of the territory of wrecking their autopilot is you force then into an opinion. I'd be more worried if they said nothing. | /r/seduction | 07/08/16 03:19 AM |
| 12 | To my people who remember seduction before the prevalence of texting and social media, How have these cultural items changed your approach to seduction?Oddly not much in what you do as much as how you do it. Instead of calling and leaving a voice mail they pick up you can send a text now and wait for a response. I like it cause it lets you collect your thoughts and say what you really want to say (unless you're texting too fast lol). But the goal is still to enjoy the conversation, laugh, learn about each other, etc. That stuff will never change probably. Back 20 years ago as kids you spent hours on the phone talking to each other and your ears… | /r/seduction | 06/08/16 09:17 PM |
| 2 | How can I stop putting my crushes on a pedestal?Tell the girl you keep wanting to put her on a pedestal, see what she says. Tell her she's good at making you think she's a princess. I've said both these things and both girls still stayed interested in me. It's not a huge deal to admit that you're bad at dating. If a girl is interested she's interested. I actually said "Man something about you makes me wanna just treat you like a princess. You gotta do something to not be so perfect like fart or something." She laughed, but it wasn't like sexy… | /r/seduction | 06/08/16 08:19 AM |
| 1 | [Inner Game] So the more "genuine" I become the more I realize I'm kind of cynical and bitter towards women. Any ideas?Not to be rude but that wasn't really the direction I was going. I'm well aware my cynicism is counterproductive to meeting people, but what do I do when that's who I am right now? How does someone learn to trust a girl when she tells me she doesn't like playing games or tells me she finds me interesting? | /r/seduction | 27/01/14 04:57 AM |
| 1 | [Inner Game] So the more "genuine" I become the more I realize I'm kind of cynical and bitter towards women. Any ideas?Yeah. I didn't bring this up but a couple of years ago I got out of a 12-year relationship that started when I was 14. Oh and she was 23 years older than me and 37 when it started (I know, I know). So yeah it's kind of a hard one to get over because I was so young and so impressionable plus I stayed with her even well after the fact I knew the relationship was crazy toxic. And now I'm not sure to think if her love for me was genuine or if it was all about having someone she could control. I have… | /r/seduction | 26/01/14 11:17 AM |
| 2 | [Inner Game] So the more "genuine" I become the more I realize I'm kind of cynical and bitter towards women. Any ideas?You know what? Thank you so fucking much for this, like seriously. If being bitter and cynical is what I need to be for a bit then so be it. It may just be "old karma burning off" as I've heard it said by a Hindu guru (Krisnamuurti). My problems always come down to being too impatient both with others and myself. I need to just relax, chill out, lose my agenda and be whatever comes out. If it's bitter for a while then so be it. I doubt it's a state I stay in once I start feeling like I know how … | /r/seduction | 26/01/14 11:04 AM |
| 2 | [Inner Game] So the more "genuine" I become the more I realize I'm kind of cynical and bitter towards women. Any ideas?More like I don't trust them AT ALL. Even when a girl shows interest I assume she's lying for some reason or another. It's like my inner Admiral Ackbar comes out and goes, "It's a trap!" My ex was so manipulative I just got used to it after 12 years and now I assume all women (and some guys) are being dishonest. | /r/seduction | 26/01/14 06:55 AM |
| 1 | [FR] I fucked up last night. Lesson learned.This is the most frustrating part about game. How some loser with no knowledge of what women like can just come along and fuck shit up. Fucking kamikazes essentially, destroying what chance you have with a girl by invalidating her and making her feel slutty, and doing so just to keep you from getting what they want but will never have. | /r/seduction | 26/01/14 01:19 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Best text game Ive had so far. Dodging infinite shit tests leads to F-close. Transcript insideSo to me this whole thing seems really needy and persistent. I know it worked and I don't think it is a fluke, but to OP does it not feel like you're badgering her when you keep telling her you want to meet her, have her come over, have her spend the night, and to keep telling her to come over? For me after the second or third time she implied she didn't want to leave I would have just been like, "Ok fine, but we'll never get to hang out unless you say yes and come over." Then I would have just … | /r/seduction | 23/01/14 09:52 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Best text game Ive had so far. Dodging infinite shit tests leads to F-close. Transcript insideHow would you have handled this differently? | /r/seduction | 23/01/14 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever get the impression this website for the most part is, for lack of a better word "beta?" How do you make your reddit experience more confidence-boosting?Yeah. That's kind of why I posted this, to see what realizations and conclusions others have come to (good place to start). Thanks for the replies! | /r/seduction | 18/01/14 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever get the impression this website for the most part is, for lack of a better word "beta?" How do you make your reddit experience more confidence-boosting?if anything, it positive affects me because I know that I am better than that. Yeah. So it does influence you but as a person with confidence in your character it reinforces that. But as a person with less confidence I feel like it reinforces that in me, too. Does that make any sense? | /r/seduction | 18/01/14 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Went out solo for the first time with some success, not gonna lie - drugs helpI've partied on a bar of Xanax. It is crazy fun but good luck remembering all the fun times I had cause it makes me black out. The first time I woke up next to a girl going, "Where am I and who is this?" I figured it was time to stop. | /r/seduction | 18/01/14 11:23 PM |
| 2 | How to tell if a girl likes youYeah this is more of a night game thing. | /r/seduction | 05/01/14 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Met a girl home on break what do yall think?You're talking too much. Now if you were going to demonstrate that feeling through actions and not words, how would you go about it? | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 07:17 PM |
| 1 | How to respond when a girl insults you?I usually laugh. But I laugh at a lot of absurd things (yay Albert Camus). Note: There are certain things other people are going to say which aren't cool. If someone says something that hurts your feelings legitimately there's nothing wrong with that. You're a human being, remember. | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 06:55 PM |
| 1 | "No More Mr. Nice Guy" vs "How to Win Friends and Influence People", two books often recommended on here. Has anyone else read these, and sees contradictions in following both of their advice at the same time?But through a desire to do so, one can learn to take more interest in other people than he/she currently has. | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 03:03 AM |
| 3 | Simple question: What do you say, when you meet a beautful girl on the street and she smiles at you?I agree to a point. The first interaction in a scenario like this needs to have a purpose of pulling her out of whatever she was just thinking about and onto you. If you're hot this won't be a problem. But if not, you need to have the first few things you say be substantial enough to make her reroute her brain. I do this by asking a question. No introduction or anything. Like, "Hey do you know where the nearest place to eat is?" Bam, now she has to stop what she's thinking about and focus on you… | /r/seduction | 17/12/13 10:31 PM |
| 2 | How do you get past small talk?In a weird way it's more controlled because you know with relative certainty how everything is supposed to go. But with social interactions it's a crap shoot. For me the anxiety doesn't come from the possible consequences, it comes from being put in a situation where I don't feel like I can process all the variables quickly enough. Like a computer whose processor gets bogged down, except instead of overheating I get nervous. | /r/seduction | 17/12/13 05:28 AM |
| 1 | How do you get past small talk?http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder I'm afraid to speak too much farther because I don't want to give you false information. But yeah, it's intertwined with social anxiety. My other condition involves difficulties with social cues so the anxiety is pretty correlative. Just keep facing fear in the face, buddy. Be that adrenaline junkie that only has to talk to people to get his kicks (cheaper than jumping out of an airplane, too). | /r/seduction | 17/12/13 05:21 AM |
| 2 | How do you get past small talk?Long story but I have another psychological condition and this is one of the effects of said condition. I'll tell you that a diagnosis is nice and all, but there's not really anything you can do with it. I'm not saying you shouldn't see anyone, but what you'll probably get is a prescription for buspirone and a person who helps shine insight on how you can see the avoidance for what it is (fear of intimacy). These things can be godsends, but the important part is whether they call it social anxie… | /r/seduction | 17/12/13 05:14 AM |
| 2 | How do you get past small talk?I don't mean to be missing the point, I just don't know what sort of books are even good for this. Like if it were left up to me to buy a literary work I'd get a science fiction book probably. But I'm guessing Phillip K. Dick isn't going to even inadvertently teach me much about social interactions. What about a book like Fight Club? Edit: Actually nevermind I'll figure it out myself. :-) | /r/seduction | 16/12/13 10:07 PM |
| 2 | How do you get past small talk?I used it awkwardly but I'm assuming you mean when things are written in a way that's more of a story than say a research paper or whatnot. So I'm asking if there are any seduction guides that embody that sort of writing style and don't write like a non-fiction manual. | /r/seduction | 16/12/13 09:55 PM |
| 2 | How do you get past small talk?Thanks, as it is now I'm more about reading a lot of reference manuals on cars and just how to repair things in general lol. Kind of boring to most but I get off on furthering myself in the most enjoyable way possible (learning) Anyone have any ideas for literary seduction/anxiety reduction manuals? | /r/seduction | 16/12/13 09:51 PM |
| 2 | How do you get past small talk?I have. He helps with the inner game a lot. But he's also encouraged me to find my own outlets for self-actualization which is why I'm here. There are a lot of people here who have studied all the different facets to anxiety (which is essentially what it boils down to, fear of mental intimacy) and can offer some advice on how to work with it instead of against it. I've had a lot wrong with me in my days and have to work with a lot of other issues that others don't. I've probably spent more times… | /r/seduction | 16/12/13 09:44 PM |
| 1 | [Guide] Before you start learning seduction, read this. I think you'll be glad you did.This. | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 02:01 AM |
| 35 | Is it fair to assume that a 'movie night' is something more if there's been sexual tension for a long while?Not knowing what's going to happen is half the fun for a lot of people. The problem is most guys on here don't have that mindset (I have to step back and check myself constantly). They want plans, structure, order, all of which are, well, lame as fuck. Your biggest enemies in seduction are boredom, laziness and apathy. Give them something to get excited about; even if it's not always good it's better than nothing. Ask yourself if explaining the situation is going to get her emotionally intereste… | /r/seduction | 19/11/12 04:57 PM |
| 6 | I'm Asian and find non-Asian women intimidating. Asian sedditors, how did you over come this?It's a natural inclination to be nervous around people unlike us, so different races, ethnicities and cultures can make us seem uneasy. It's not a good thing and it usually does more harm than good but it is natural and takes conscious effort many times to overcome. Most people do this whether they admit it or not, but the key is to not look down on or up to others based on these differences. We are all equal. That being said, try asking yourself in the field, "Why do I feel uncomfortable talkin… | /r/seduction | 18/11/12 10:01 PM |
| 2 | Negs only work if you're funny."I'd like to double your entendre..." | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Negs only work if you're funny.I think the biggest issue is this: negging only works if you're not trying to hurt the other person's feelings. Anything else and you're just a douchebag. | /r/seduction | 06/11/12 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Alan Watts' lectures have done a lot for my inner game. They're great to help you live in the moment and not be attached to outcomes.Just as a warning it may have effects different than you'd expect, and it may be fairly profound. For example I didn't go after women for some time after realizing Zen, because in my head women just became an object of potential suffering. You may not give a fuck about women for a while, maybe even a long while. But it also has the potential to give you something so amazing that you'll think, "Women? Meh." And when you do start going after women again, you will definitely be outcome independent.… | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 03:26 PM |
| 1 | [Inner Game] If you want confidence, you need to accept yourself as-is right here and right now. It doesn't seem like it, but it's how you move forward.Relax, man. Awareness is the first step. After a while you'll see patterns emerge, get enough and finally go, "fuck it, I'm fine the way I am." | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 03:42 PM |
| 1 | [Inner Game] If you want confidence, you need to accept yourself as-is right here and right now. It doesn't seem like it, but it's how you move forward.I don't know. That's why everyone has to find their own path, man. I will say that thinking your way through this may be the much harder route. Try meditation...seriously. | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 04:35 AM |
| 1 | [Inner Game] If you want confidence, you need to accept yourself as-is right here and right now. It doesn't seem like it, but it's how you move forward.Once again, take whatever path works for you but for me I realized I was setting expectations through my desires to be things I wasn't. I found out a lot of misery I was putting on myself by wanting myself to have all these things: a lot of money, athletic ability, better looks, etc. Ultimately I found out that I wanted hot women to want me and that want was what was causing me so much grief. To my own disbelief when I stopped wanting a lot of these irrelevant things I started feeling so much ha… | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 04:25 AM |
| 3 | [Inner Game] If you want confidence, you need to accept yourself as-is right here and right now. It doesn't seem like it, but it's how you move forward.I don't know. I started reading about Buddhism and it came, though there are many more direct ways I'm sure of finding inner game. If you take the route I did be warned it comes with a price. I found things that were much more profound than I imagined they would be. It kind of puts things in perspective, and for a long time chasing women lost it's flavor. I guess you could say that I finally realized they're just the same as us. | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 04:11 AM |
| 2 | I just found this subreddit last night. This morning, I reintroduced myself to a girl I met at a party.The best part is when you realize that it's ALL YOU. This. When you don't do this you turn into a slave of PUA. But when you realize you're the one doing it then you have freedom. | /r/seduction | 23/10/12 06:09 PM |
| 1 | How to treat a girl I met through a University 'DTF' Facebook page?Treat her however you want. | /r/seduction | 23/10/12 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to be too weird?Cool. It's not my intention to be selfish but maybe I just don't know any better. That would also explain why I can get along with guys just fine but girls not so much. Maybe the only friends I get are ones that are natural friends but what I need to learn are skill sets to find common ground with others. Thank you. | /r/seduction | 14/10/12 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to be too weird?I actually wish I could be more similar most of the time. I try to downplay my quirkiness but to no avail. I've learned to become slightly insecure about all the shit I say to the point where I just stay quiet in the corner. But in the last few months I've been like, "No, I'm not going to be ashamed of who I am anymore." After reading this I'm thinking maybe I just need to learn how to find common ground with people. | /r/seduction | 14/10/12 10:23 AM |
| 3 | Is it possible to be too weird?I assumed others didn't because when I ask them if they ever wonder certain things I almost always hear, "No, not really." Plus my ex-gf used to tell me that half the stuff I mention never really crossed her mind. But I could never tell which half. :-) Trying to be an original is a fools game. You are trying to do it. Stop. The problem is I just don't know how to be any way else. I guess if I'm being original that's fine but it's not like I'm trying. I'm just being me, but I don't know how to st… | /r/seduction | 14/10/12 10:20 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to be too weird?That's a huge problem for me, mutual topics. I don't get a lot of other people and I definitely don't know what a lot of people my age (20s) like. I'm really big into older things, like black and white movies, oldies/classic rock (I love The Beatles), etc., and if I watch TV it's usually ESPN or Science Channel stuff. I was raised by my grandma and I think it gave me an "older" perspective on things. But if I talk about the kind of stuff I like with women almost none of them seem interested. I d… | /r/seduction | 14/10/12 10:13 AM |
| 6 | Is it possible to be too weird?I think I may have just realized something reading this. If I make an observation about something weird people will associate that weird thing with me, if not directly, indirectly. I make myself weirder by talking about things outside of me that are weird. I think I'm being weird by association to weird concepts. I know you didn't mean to do this, but I think I just figured something out! Thanks, man! Edit: Here's a question. Do you think if I talk about and associate with concepts other people … | /r/seduction | 14/10/12 04:49 AM |
| 4 | Is it possible to be too weird?Not really. I would say very random. I think about and notice things other people don't, and I tend to follow an observational humor about it. Life to me always seems kind of silly, hell half of things we do without noticing make me laugh. So I try to enjoy the humor behind the random things we take for granted. Nonetheless when I bring up stuff like this, the kind of stuff that makes me literally lol, a lot of times people are just like, "WTF?" I'm admittedly not as funny, but I guess I kind of… | /r/seduction | 14/10/12 04:45 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to be too weird?That's the problem. I don't think I'm weird so I don't know what people find weird about me. I could ask, "Hey, what makes you think I'm weird?" I guess. But I really don't want to. | /r/seduction | 14/10/12 04:38 AM |
| 2 | To be honest whenever I meet Alpha guys they annoy me because I don't like how they just seem rude and douche-y to me. Is there any way to get over this?This is what I've been telling myself but then I start questioning myself. Thank you for posting this. I needed it. | /r/seduction | 11/10/12 05:43 AM |
| 7 | To be honest whenever I meet Alpha guys they annoy me because I don't like how they just seem rude and douche-y to me. Is there any way to get over this?Because everything I read tells me that being an alpha male is what gets you what you want in life. I'm not satisfied with the results I'm getting and these guys who I honestly don't get whatsoever (cause they seem way too controlling to me and infringing on others) do get a lot more of everything: women, jobs, success, etc. I guess it's hard for me to lead others because I feel like they want to lead themselves like I do and if I take the role of alpha that they will ultimately resent me for it… | /r/seduction | 11/10/12 03:31 AM |
| 1 | The two easiest ways to ruin your game--next time you're in the field and not having the best of luck, see if you're doing either of these two things.How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood? :-) | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 06:49 AM |
| 2 | The two easiest ways to ruin your game--next time you're in the field and not having the best of luck, see if you're doing either of these two things.Whenever I was younger I wanted to learn Zen Buddhism. People told me I couldn't, but I didn't understand why. After hearing numerous people giving me frustratingly complicated-yet-simple answers, I was about to give up. Then I found some resources that explained to me what they meant. They explained since Zen is about something so much greater than words many people feel like trying to explain it is futile and pointless. Since those days I've experienced things that have helped me truly realize… | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 06:47 AM |
| 2 | Why are women so negative about the "picking up women" school of thought?No, but I am implying that if the woman was aware of this they wouldn't like it. | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 07:16 PM |
| 46 | Why are women so negative about the "picking up women" school of thought?It's as simple as this, guys. They feel like they're being manipulated. No one likes feeling like the person they're talking to has some grand agenda. If you were a rich guy, met an amazing woman, but then found a book in her house on how to get a rich guy, wouldn't that bother you a bit? Some people use this in an almost sociopathic sense to get what they want from women without any regards to how said women will feel about it. Most of us just want to make life more enjoyable both for us and th… | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 05:31 PM |
| 1 | What is the response when women blatantly pretend that you are some sort of "disgusting" person?Sheeeeeeeiit! | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 07:39 AM |
| 1 | How do you see multiple girls and not feel shitty about it?By being honest. The truth will set you free. | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 05:01 AM |
| 4 | Alright, you guys are going to think I am a whiny little bitch.Relax, man. You're fine the way you are. I know it's really hard to believe it when you possess traits that you don't like about yourself but the truth is we all have flaws. I saw something once that applies here: If your life was a film you're basically comparing your uncut footage to other people's highlight reels. Other people will always seem to be more flawless than you because you don't live inside of their brain. Even Tom Brady or President Obama doubt themselves sometimes. I think you sh… | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 04:56 AM |
| 3 | What is the response when women blatantly pretend that you are some sort of "disgusting" person?Only if it's that kind of party, though. | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 04:44 AM |
| 2 | What do you guys think about having a very specific game plan for when you go out?Offensive Coordinators many times script their first ten plays from scrimmage. Perhaps having scripted openers isn't such a bad idea. I would keep them pretty vanilla and generic though (a run play up the middle, i.e., "Hi, My name is Jeff.") | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Is there any way to keep women from getting too attached to you?I do. And with the last girl I did and she basically told me that she was crushed. I strongly adopt the mindset of leaving women (and people in general) better than I found them. I just don't feel like I'm doing that and it sucks. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Inner game is all about falling in love with yourself.I have no confidence in my game, but still get women. Since I learned to love myself for who I am it doesn't matter. I don't need to be confident because I don't need a desired outcome to occur. I have me and I love me and that's all that matters. The rest is just icing on the cake. My friends asked me how I started getting women. Honestly I tell them, "Because I'm not afraid of making a damn fool out of myself." It's not that I think it will work, it's that I just don't care if it does (and the… | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Inner game is all about falling in love with yourself.Yes. Since adopting a self-love mindset my courage has increased markedly. When you no longer feel like you need women in your life to make you happy, everything opens up. Fear disappears, and you can either try Seddit principles or your own without worrying what the girl thinks (cause even if she doesn't like it, you always have yourself). So to answer your question, yes, this mentality has helped me out greatly, as in I've gotten more numbers and hooked up with more women in the last six month… | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 02:13 PM |
| 1 | I found a formula/strategy for dealing with challenging women that is actually MATHEMATICALLY PROVEN to work in most situations! Also explains mathematically why nice guys finish last.I never said I was solving seduction, only providing mathematical basis for everyday situations. This formula admittedly only comes in handy in specific situations (which you have to recognize and is why I linked up a larger article to read first). But you'd have to be lying to yourself to not recognize there are some real-life situations that mirror this game. And in those situations the best strategies are those which I listed. I will wholeheartedly admit that many situations don't follow this… | /r/seduction | 21/08/12 08:01 PM |
| 2 | What's the truth behind "you're going too fast"?Although this works, try to think of what will happen after you have sex with her. If she's looking for a relationship and you aren't don't do that to her, there are plenty of fish in the sea. The first rule of seduction is leaving them better than we found them. That doesn't always work but you should always try for it. | /r/seduction | 11/08/12 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Its been a while since I went out into the field but now school is starting, I dont have time to re-read all the articles in time and cant remember much, tl;dr of what to do?It's not about confidence, that just makes it easier. You can act however you want no matter how you feel. You have the power to. That being said I say eye contact is most important, followed closely by smiling softly. After that make sure and escalate with kino. | /r/seduction | 11/08/12 08:31 PM |
| 1 | If I don't have a place to bring girls back to,what do I do?I would risk it and tell her your place isn't an option. Unless it's just a one night stand they're going to find out soon enough. Honesty will sincerely set you free. When you don't have to worry about what you're going to say, you say what you want without fear. | /r/seduction | 11/08/12 08:27 PM |
| 1 | I just finished the Book of Pook and...I had never heard of this, but decided to give it a look after your post. I'm only about 30 pages in but so far I'm agreeing with you. | /r/seduction | 07/08/12 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Curious lady here: How often do men use "passive aggressive" pick-up techniques? (ex: brushing up against a woman but not saying anything) Are there a lot of passive aggressive pick up techniques?I do sometimes, but I consider it more passive (in the sense of me not thinking about it) than passive-aggressive. A lot of times I unintentionally flirt just because my natural body language does so for me. If there's a girl at the bar, I may put my hand on her arm or her side and ask her if I can get past her to get a drink. I'm not flirting, but you might take it as I am. Anonymous ass grabbing is passive aggressive as fuck, though. Not to mention something only a total creeper would do. | /r/seduction | 07/08/12 02:24 PM |
| 2 | What do you do when you found your inner game, and now you're so content with yourself that you've lost your desire to seduce? (Deep inner-game talk, you may wanna keep out if that's not your thing)Actually it was when I stopped being so narcissistic and started genuinely caring about those around me that I noticed such a drastic change in the way people reacted to me. As for my sex drive, I don't know, it just went away. I didn't want it to. I still go after girls a little bit but I don't go out hoping to get laid. If I'm hanging out with them and they're pretty I'll start flirting with them. If it works great and if not oh well. | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 08:35 PM |
| 6 | What are the ways of isolating a girl? How do you do it?Take her hand. "Here, come with me." If she's hesitant it is because she's not ready for isolation yet. | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 08:16 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when you found your inner game, and now you're so content with yourself that you've lost your desire to seduce? (Deep inner-game talk, you may wanna keep out if that's not your thing)This makes sense because I found my inner game through reading of eastern religion/philosophy. And in their opinion the key to happiness comes from a reduction of standards and expectations. I think I now understand why those Tibetan monks don't have sex lol. It's not because they can't, it's because they don't want to anymore. | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 08:12 PM |
| 1 | So I'm trying to be more aloof and selective, but I'm being told I just seem oblivious.I guess I'm not really trying to, I just am. Honestly I'd like to be more direct but I find it hard to give a fuck. Like I just don't care if I fuck her or not. She's super hot, is on the dance team of the college we go to, and I still am just in a "whatever" mode about it. It's not that I mind texting her, I just don't really feel like it so I don't. Holy crap, I just realized what the issue is. I'm not aloof, I'm lazy! That's odd how replying to you made me realize it, but it is just me being … | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Where are the best places to meet new people when you have next to no social life?Pick up a job as a server at a local restaurant just one night a week. Seriously, restaurants are full of people who are friendly, social and love to party. You'll have an opportunity to make friends and there will be a lot of opportunities for partying, I assure you. Plus you'll make some money. It can be a super stressful job but if you are just doing it to make some extra cash it would probably be a lot cooler than as a primary source of income, too. | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 07:38 PM |
| 2 | good looking, intelligent, totally fucking cluelessI'm not going to say my advice will be what works for you, but as a person who has been depressed for most of his life (minus the last year) and is just now in the last few months overcoming my misanthropy, I will say this: Lower your expectations. A lot of times the world sucks because we feel like it could be so much better than it is. But if you approach it with no expectations--of others, of the future, of yourself--then you find that feeling of dissatisfaction goes away. This doesn't mean y… | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 07:34 PM |
| 1 | The Power of Negative ThinkingTo each his own. | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 05:03 PM |
| 3 | I think I usually come off as cold and analytical/distant. Weed makes me open up/become social again. Can I use this to my advantage, or do I need to find another way to open myself up?There's nothing wrong with you. Those are merely conditions. Character attributes, if you will. They may be undesirable to you, but that doesn't make them, or you, wrong. :-) I say if you want to smoke then you should keep doing it. But from everything I read I get the feeling with some repeated exposure you could master your social skills even while not high. | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 08:48 AM |
| 2 | Do I have to give up some enjoyment of a date in order to get into girls' pants?You're compromising too much. Try being you, but instead make sure to lay on the eye contact, escalate the kino (don't be afraid of kino, it feels good to touch girls and it feels good to them to be touched), and smile/enjoy yourself. From there you can be nice, in fact a nice guy who does those three things above really well would probably get more girls liking him than he would know what to do with...seriously. | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 08:43 AM |
| 1 | The Power of Negative ThinkingYou're supposed to think about whatever you want. :-) This isn't a test, there are no right answers. Just be okay with whatever you think, it's the self-acceptance that matters. | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 08:37 AM |
| 2 | The Power of Negative ThinkingAs a person who practices Buddhism I have to be honest, the mindset of this article kind of confuses me. How do you determine which thoughts are good or bad? I don't really know how to word what I'm trying to say, but I can say that I have the best luck whenever I stop thinking about doing the right or wrong thing and just accept whatever happens as it is. I accept my surroundings, live in the present moment, put in my contribution of words and actions and enjoy; no expectations of being liked, … | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 08:35 AM |
| 2 | I think I usually come off as cold and analytical/distant. Weed makes me open up/become social again. Can I use this to my advantage, or do I need to find another way to open myself up?There's no right or wrong way about it. IMO other than legal issues what you're doing is no different than having a few drinks to relax. You have to do what works best for you. But do yourself a huge favor; don't think you have to be high to talk to women. That's self-limiting behavior and it only holds you back. You sound different than me, but I will say this nonetheless: I used to think I did better when I smoked, but then I realized I just thought I did. I smoke now just for me, cause I star… | /r/seduction | 05/08/12 08:09 AM |
| 1 | AFCs on /r/amiugly could use our help...That's perfect. When people are ready to find their way, they will. | /r/seduction | 01/08/12 08:16 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean when you're maintaining great eye contact, but the girl is looking all over the place?You aren't going to get a clearer sign than that lol. | /r/seduction | 29/07/12 05:16 AM |
| 1 | What does it mean when you're maintaining great eye contact, but the girl is looking all over the place?If a girl likes you, she's probably going to want to hang out with you. And I don't think it comes off as needy as much as it comes across as direct. You know what you want, right? If you don't figure it out, and if you do, go after it. You may not get it, but you have to try and go after it. It's not always the best policy to push forward (sometimes you have to be more aloof and indirect), but if you can't tell if she likes you or not then that's exactly the perfect time to amp up the sexual te… | /r/seduction | 28/07/12 07:46 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean when you're maintaining great eye contact, but the girl is looking all over the place?Okay cool! That's a plus. Now next time put your arm around her. Hug her and while you do tell her that her hair smells good (but in a matter-of-fact sort of way). It sounds like you just don't know which happens a lot. But once again the only way to find out is to push harder. This girl could be all about having sex with you, maybe even the next time you see her. But she won't push forward, that's up to you (which is where the kino escalation comes in so much handy). | /r/seduction | 28/07/12 07:15 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Went to the mall today, Epic Fail :(Dude, look at it this way. You so far only have one problem: You're afraid. You already know what that problem is, and you're taking active steps to overcome it. People who have anxiety get over it by slowly acclimating themselves to stressful situations. You are doing that. You're doing it right, man, it just takes time. Do yourself a favor. Next time tell yourself you're NOT going to talk to a single girl. But you will look them in the eyes for even a half of a second. The goal is not to get t… | /r/seduction | 28/07/12 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Feeling weird and guilty about sexMy dad was gone all the time when I was a kid too. For me the problem was for the longest time when I went up to girls not knowing what I was doing wrong, and what I was doing right (what do I change? What don't I change?) In the last few months, I've really grown more confident with myself and it's helped put a lot into perspective. I will say this; you have a crazy advantage the way you are now. You understand women, I guarantee it. You may not realize you do, but you do. You probably even exh… | /r/seduction | 28/07/12 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, how do you guys qualify women to make sure they aren't batshit insane or psycho?All these stories share the same quality: All the guys went for too much too fast. You want to avoid crazies? Get to know the girl first. You will never know if a girl is nuts meeting her at a party and hooking up the same night. Yeah, you might not get laid as much, but if you're really worried about crazy girls it will be worth it. Every action has a consequence. | /r/seduction | 28/07/12 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to act too selective and distant if you've already established she is attracted to you?The thing is I don't care if I have sex with her. I'm not playing games, I'm just impartial. I already told both of them I'm not interested in dating them but if they wanted to have fun and hang out I was all about it. I also tell them I hate texting so if they want to text me it's up to them. I'm honest as can be, but it's like they don't care if I'm honest or not and they just want what they want. | /r/seduction | 28/07/12 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Moving to a whole new state for community college: Picking up CC girls.Eye contact, smile, stand slightly closer than usual, engage in some basic kino. Those four things are really all you need, whether it be a bar, or community college. I wouldn't tell her you like her with your words. The four things I listed above will tell her quite loudly you like her. The conversation is to become comfortable with each other. | /r/seduction | 28/07/12 06:28 PM |
| 5 | What does it mean when you're maintaining great eye contact, but the girl is looking all over the place?Instead of trying to figure out if she likes you with the information you feel is insufficient, up the stakes a little and do something more bold. Basically kino can kind of be like an experiment to measure attraction. If you can't tell from her eye contact, touch her hand for a second and see if she pulls away nervously or allows you to hold it. Put your hand on the small of her back. Just move your body closer to hers in general. The point is if you have insufficient data, run more tests. Do y… | /r/seduction | 28/07/12 06:16 PM |
| 2 | Not sure what to do here. MILF Territory.Older women are easy, be honest and direct. No games, no bs. They've dated around enough to appreciate straightforwardness, and honestly they're a lot more drama-free usually. I've also found being nice works a lot better on older women. I think it is because as we all age we figure out more of what we want and that if we want to get it we have to go after it. Women are no exception. That being said I don't think this woman is into you. I don't mean that in a rude way, and I could be wrong, but … | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 03:51 AM |
| 2 | So within the last month I'm not exactly sure how, but I went from having intense social anxiety to giving almost zero fucks around girls. I don't fully understand why completely but I will explain what happened--maybe it would help.Honestly I don't know and I'm not going to lie and make something up. I came to the conclusion after doing some deep thinking (mindfulness) it was silly to get upset. I guess another way of looking at it (though it seems somewhat negative) is that I realized these women, men, none of them have anything they can hurt me with. They can be rude, but I don't have to let them hurt my feelings. Once there are no consequences everything opens up. | /r/seduction | 24/07/12 03:00 AM |
| 2 | So within the last month I'm not exactly sure how, but I went from having intense social anxiety to giving almost zero fucks around girls. I don't fully understand why completely but I will explain what happened--maybe it would help.It's a genuine life strategy. I will admit that I can still fine tune my game so I'm more sexual with girls I like and less with ones I won't (this place still has lots to teach me), but I've found plenty of success without doing so. The idea this could get better is a bit overwhelming. | /r/seduction | 24/07/12 02:45 AM |
| 2 | So within the last month I'm not exactly sure how, but I went from having intense social anxiety to giving almost zero fucks around girls. I don't fully understand why completely but I will explain what happened--maybe it would help.Reddit has been great. Also for my very first lesson I just checked out Wikipedia. It's written in a reference style but it got me interested. The first book I bought was one by the Dalai Lama named, "How To See Yourself As You Really Are." From there I got a super complicated book called "The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching" by Thich Nhat Hanh. It's not for beginners, and a lot of times I'm scratching my head but it feels like (at least right now) it could tell me everything I want to know about… | /r/seduction | 23/07/12 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Thanks to Seddit, I got a cute girls number tonight!That's awesome man! I can tell you as long as you keep the attitude you have, you will never fail by default. It's all icing on the cake, and it doesn't matter what happens from here on out cause it's already a success. Keep doing what you're doing and it will just keep getting better and better. Just wait until you have to choose between two girls cause both of them at the table you went up to are interested (it's not fun at all to pick, but it's definitely a "Whoa, is this really happening?" m… | /r/seduction | 23/07/12 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Thanks to Seddit, I got a cute girls number tonight!Totally unrelated to OP but have you ever woke up the day after a huge night of drinking to have a contact in your phone listed as "A". And you're like, "Who the hell is A?" | /r/seduction | 23/07/12 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Can one not enjoy activities/hobbies that are not normally considered "attractive" and still succeed?It's not the hobby, it's the love for it that's hot. | /r/seduction | 22/07/12 06:14 PM |
| 2 | A realisation about oneitis, (at least in my case).That's rough, man. 6.5 years and to find out that way. It's good to see you are taking it well, though. Optimism is your best friend right now. I think a lot of oneitis comes from not thinking you can do any better. I've never had it because I'm one of those people who has a natural inclination towards the, "grass is always greener on the other side," mantra. My problem is finding one girl who is good enough for me to be exclusive, but if I had the opposite problem I would probably still be with… | /r/seduction | 22/07/12 06:09 PM |
| 1 | How do I maintain attraction with a girl throughout the night?You worry a lot. You say you can "feel" the attraction leave, but is that really her liking you less or your insecurity making you feel like she is? You just met this girl, concede you have no clue what she is thinking unless she tells you (through body language or verbally). What I read is this girl is sitting right beside you and not any other guy. I don't know how much more of a signal you want, man. From what I read I'd say there was a 99.9% chance that girl wanted you to ask her for her num… | /r/seduction | 22/07/12 05:49 PM |
| 2 | Just a quick note. Women can be awkward penguins as well. [approach anxiety tip]Socially Awkward Penguinettes taught me some of the best advice I've ever learned: Most of us are nervous as fuck talking to a hot stranger of the opposite sex. When you realize the girl you are talking to is nervous also, you feel almost a responsibility or obligation to take the lead, and it's so much easier when you feel like it's what you're supposed to do. | /r/seduction | 22/07/12 05:31 PM |
| 2 | I have a shitty home , and my family isnt all that rich. Showing low value, i dont have the confidence to bring girls back to my house or even friends. What can i do about it?None of that stuff matters, man. The house, car, all of it is nothing. It's all a prop for your mind to feel confident, but with enough willpower you can bypass the need to even have those things. It's all about your mindset. | /r/seduction | 22/07/12 05:23 PM |
| 2 | I'm having trouble getting girls in bed with me because I sleep on a couch. Help?Honestly, it sounds like at this point they are one in the same. | /r/seduction | 22/07/12 05:17 PM |
| 1 | Why You're Not Good at ThisI think it's an "All this could be yours." ploy. | /r/seduction | 22/07/12 05:09 PM |
| 6 | I feel as if my "Nice Guy" persona is hurting me more than helping meAssholes are assertive, that's why. Chances are these girls don't even know you went after them or if they do it was so lightly they never took you seriously. Here's what I suggest: Step 1: Keep being a kind, optimistic person. (Yay, you don't have to change who you are!) Step 2: Eye contact. The closer you are to her, the more intense it is. Use it, it makes girls hearts melt. Step 3: Kino escalation. This too makes their hearts melt. Just try those three things alone next time. That's it. If y… | /r/seduction | 19/07/12 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Pseudo FR: Don't give up guys, this stuff works!Missouri. :-) | /r/seduction | 18/07/12 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Pseudo FR: Don't give up guys, this stuff works!I was in a good mood which helped a lot. I was relaxed by not expecting anything from the women, which helped a lot (like every look or "hi" a girl gave me was just icing on an already great cake). From there the rest seemed somewhat natural. I hate that I don't know what I did but I don't. My whole point was that no matter what I did I was going to enjoy the present moment. I will try and post more later possibly to see if I can figure out what I was doing. | /r/seduction | 18/07/12 10:41 PM |
| 2 | Pseudo FR: Don't give up guys, this stuff works!r/buddhism helped me see I was bruising my own ego. My mind is my reality and if I keep thinking about all the times I've been rejected my reality becomes rejection. If I think about other things, like the present (the best thing to think about in the world of Buddhism), the negative feelings go away and you are left with a sort of calm wash that comes over. And it feels so good when you finally stop torturing yourself with these past moments of failure, man...so good. | /r/seduction | 18/07/12 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Pseudo FR: Don't give up guys, this stuff works!I'm 5'8" and 133 pounds (I went to the doctor today). When I posted my picture on here before I was told I looked very passive and young. I don't ooze masculinity by any means. I've probably lost 10 pounds, though, since this photo was taken so a lot of the chubbiness in my face is gone. Other than that I look pretty much the same. http://farm5.staticflickr.com/4076/4756507303_9158e634cf_b.jpg | /r/seduction | 18/07/12 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Pseudo FR: Don't give up guys, this stuff works!I completely agree. Part of my path is to become as mindful as possible, but to be honest I don't know why this happened to me. That's why I didn't put the brackets around FR to make it green and I said, "Pseudo" (because for someone looking for a real FR this wouldn't be sufficient and I can completely understand why). The only things I did, honestly were what I listed. I don't know enough about this stuff to do much more and still be comfortable in my own shell. That being said, those things I… | /r/seduction | 18/07/12 10:08 PM |
| 1 | I screwed up last night with this girl, but I think I recovered. I don't understand what's going on though, can someone help?Thank you. I do need to chill out. I have social anxiety and although I have come a long way in the last few months I still could let go of a lot more. I won't bring it up again. I've been reading about Buddhism too and it teaches me to live iin the present moment and not beat myself up for past mistakes. I will keep telling myself this and hope it works lol. | /r/seduction | 14/07/12 04:39 PM |
| 3 | r/seduction, I feel like a failure.I'm just starting at this too, man. Just a few months in. It doesn't work at first. It just doesn't. The problem is we don't know what we're doing yet. It's like learning to play a sport. The more you actually practice it and learn technique the better you get--but it takes time. The fact you're even trying shows me that you aren't failing. You can't control what other people do, you never will. All you can do is try and put your best foot forward. And it sounds like to me you are, man. Results … | /r/seduction | 14/07/12 04:14 PM |
| 1 | I screwed up last night with this girl, but I think I recovered. I don't understand what's going on though, can someone help?I only admit fault when I am in wrong, and I was. The same attribute in me that says what is on my mind also admits when I'm out of line (I'm too unfiltered, but always honest) It was something important to me, but not to other people and I need to understand that. The thing is she kept texting me until like 4 a.m. telling me how she's really a nice girl and how if I got to know her I would agree. I believe her and all, but I just think this is going to be awkward for her now. Plus she seems rea… | /r/seduction | 14/07/12 03:14 PM |
| 1 | How can I start caring about and loving women again?I feel like it's the core of pickup: desire, that is. Without desire, how can you seduce? And I figured Seddit would know more about how to create desire than anyone else, even if it was in myself and not a girl. | /r/seduction | 11/07/12 07:06 PM |
| 2 | How can I start caring about and loving women again?I always thought my empathy for others was a weakness that would keep me getting walked on forever. But now I see it can actually be what makes it never happen again. I need to remember despite what shields we put up we're all in this together, walking the same planet with the same fears, loves, questions, etc. Thank you. | /r/seduction | 11/07/12 07:00 PM |
| 1 | How can I start caring about and loving women again?This is true somewhat. I'll take a bar of Xanax a few times a year and then go party, and when I do I have so much better luck with women. But I don't want to use drugs if I don't have to. | /r/seduction | 11/07/12 06:49 PM |
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