I see a lot of posts about people here approaching in clubs and other places, but not so much about college. Is there a significant difference between the two places that would require a change of mindset?

anthony0123lol · 2012-09-30T04:23:53+00:00

The basics of everything that apply to everything, everywhere, to everyone:

1) Be confident

2) Know yourself. Be comfortable with your opinions.

3) Know how to present yourself

4) Be fucking emotional stable for fucks sake.

5) Don't be a bitch (unless you're a woman, then do your thing)

6) Do what you want to do. Invite others along if you feel they'll add to your enjoyment of life.

Even these 6 points are taking this shit way too far. Just have fun being yourself.

Setsa · 2012-09-30T05:44:10+00:00

While there are some similarities, using the same approach methods in an educational environment that one would normally use at a club is a huge no-no. A lot of it relies on the perception of why the individual is there in the first place: is a girl attending class or reading a book in the library / hall really looking to be hit on? Generally, being more cultured in the college environment is more admirable, because coming across as too aggressive in escalation will raise a few brows or make you look like a "pig". That's not to say you're not going to escalate, but just that you should do so over a longer time period and acknowledge that since you're both sober, studious individuals an f-close after a date or so isn't as likely.

The best advice I can give about meeting ladies and getting their interest is to find your place on campus among social circles and flex your strengths from there. Be cautious though because, unlike a bar or club, you will inevitably be dealing with any lady you approach in the future in some shape or another. Bedding a HB9 may feel like a great accomplishment, but if you garner a bad name from it it is NOT worth it.

There are plenty of women on campus that all have different attitudes and most are trying to "find themselves" in those first two years of college life. Be social, respectful, and establish who you are on campus. Everyone has their unique attributes that they can flaunt, and doing so in a controlled manner is the best way to get people to notice you, ladies inclusive.

30vanquish · 2012-09-30T05:55:54+00:00

My advice would be to aim at networking rather than closing numbers, especially the first year. I don't know if your classes are big/college is big, but you don't want to get known as the "womanizer", especially if you don't know how to wear it like a badge. Knowing people is an advantage either way. That's my plan, and it's worked nicely so far.

I'm on a decently sized Uni (about 15k peeps?), 100 in my class, 600 my year studying something very related. At first it seemed very big but after a short while people got to know each other and I realized the importance of not coming off as a prick.

If college isn't fun and laid back, you're doing it wrong! (Still study, though)

amp3194 · 2012-09-30T04:03:52+00:00

I'm bumping this just 'cause I'm a college student too.

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