What are some good exercises for breaking the habit of needing to be validated by other people?

bmars801 · 2012-10-17T12:36:07+00:00

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puaCurveBall · 2012-10-17T07:18:36+00:00

The same as any other, you keep it in your mind and catch yourself as you do it, until you stop doing it.

Just start by noticing everytime you do it. Heck, if you are a hard case then even keep a log if you think it'll help.

Once you learn to recognize it, you can work on catching yourself before you do it.

Don't overthink it, it'll just take some time and focus on your part.

Nabert · 2012-10-17T07:16:20+00:00

I'm not sure if it's the same for everyone, but I think I'm an awesome person. I have tons of great qualities, friends and feel I have a lot to offer. What that translates to is a lot of self-confidence.

I don't really seek validation from anyone anymore because of that confidence. If I really am as cool as I think I am, people are going to naturally like me. And if they don't, then it's no sweat off my back.

itsmevichet · 2012-10-17T15:08:22+00:00

Realize that everyone has opinions.

Realize that 90 percent of people live in absolute fear of others' opinions, including those people whose opinions that YOU fear.

Realize that it doesn't f*cking matter, because a random stranger's opinion doesn't change diddly shit about what you have to do every day to get what you want out of life.

That's kinda how I go about it.

The only opinions you should really consider (I said consider, not blindly follow) are those of your close friends who regularly help you become a better you. And you better be doing the same for them.

thebayway · 2012-10-17T19:01:18+00:00

Bench Press, Deadlifts, Chin-ups, Weighted Decline Sit-ups. A lot of truth is said in jest ;)

2012-10-17T09:10:57+00:00

just stop giving a fuck.

Title	What are some good exercises for breaking the habit of needing to be validated by other people?
Author	prunck
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Date	October 17, 2012 4:20 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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