I was watching Tyler's Noobie video and realized the biggest thing I need is to become "in the moment". How do I train myself to be in the moment by default?

2012-10-17T03:19:14+00:00

Ask yourself: "Am I present?" If you are not present then you will become present.

Tolle, from whom Tyler has drawn a lot, suggested this a practice to help keep present.

puaCurveBall · 2012-10-17T07:06:37+00:00

Look up zen, "the power of now", meditation and articles on being present.

Meditation can be many things, but one thing in common is not thinking about the past or the future, which is where most people are stuck most of their lives.

It is a skill like anything, once you get good you can spend most of your time in the moment, and get into that state within a couple seconds anywhere you are at.

Cosmic_American · 2012-10-17T05:45:05+00:00

Meditate

PLplotsOTS · 2012-10-17T06:07:03+00:00

/r/zen my be of interest to you. If you find sitting still difficult, yoga is a good transition into meditation. Learning to lucid dream involves "reality checks" that train you to be in the moment.

2012-10-17T07:12:35+00:00

Awareness meditation is your best bet. This requires hard work and commitment though.

2012-10-17T13:58:06+00:00

Read "A New Earth" and/or "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. I've almost finished the former. Amazing stuff.

Basically you have to learn to not "shut out" but let go of all thought and awareness outside of the room and moment that you're in. In other words, your entire life purpose in every moment has to be for that moment alone. If you're going to the store, that's your life goal, and nothing else.

You also have to rise above your ego and do things for you. I find this hard, but a good exercise is to take deep breaths and concentrate on them, stare at the room and try not to name or label anything that you see, just observe it, and conceptualize the room as an enclosed space with nothing outside of it. The moment is everything - it is your whole life. If you can do that in a setting alone, you can do that around other people.

2012-10-17T10:39:22+00:00

read eckhart tolle

archaicfrost · 2012-10-17T16:14:12+00:00

Meditation!

Sit for 20 minutes and just be aware of the present. When you notice a thought, acknowledge it, and let it go. Don't focus on it, just be aware of it.

I'm reading a great book called The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane, that suggests when you notice that you are not in the present moment to focus on one of the following three things: the sounds around you, your breathing, or the sensations in your toes.

The very next time you're in a conversation, try to regularly check whether your mind is fully engaged or whether it is wandering elsewhere (including preparing your next sentence). Aim to bring yourself back to the present moment as often as you can by focusing on your breath or your toes for just a second, and then get back to focusing on the other person.

I'm only about 20% through the book right now, but so far it is one of the best books I have ever read about inner game.

2012-10-17T14:17:49+00:00

That's what /r/zen is all about.

For a quick and easy and fun intro, watch the movie Peaceful Warrior

itsmevichet · 2012-10-17T15:25:47+00:00

Do you do sports? That's a big way to get into the moment.

Cooking. That's another way I do it.

Dancing, too.

See, the moment is when you become a singular tool of action, performing whatever it is you are performing, at that moment, with razor focus. The world could be falling apart around you, and you are in that moment, and you aren't anywhere else until it's done.

So... keep doing things. Do things until the stray thoughts become really quiet.

Biggest thing that will help you: Realize that stray thoughts don't go away - they just become irrelevant. The background noise of your life fades away. That's when you're in t he moment.

Title	I was watching Tyler's Noobie video and realized the biggest thing I need is to become "in the moment". How do I train myself to be in the moment by default?
Author	fashin_throwaway
Upvotes	11
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Date	October 17, 2012 2:24 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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