I'm 26 and very motivated to change my life...my only problem is I feel like I've wasted so much time, and it's killing my motivation. Advice?

Russia-On-Ice · 2012-10-22T06:56:47+00:00

Wrong subreddit for this sort of question, but I'll go ahead and say a few things for you.

Your goal is too vague.

Why do you think a lot of people fail at weight loss or getting in shape? They are only focused on their desire for the end result and go without paying attention to all of the steps that have to happen in between. Cool, you've decided that you want to get into shape. Now what? Normally one would start with changing their diet, starting a basic workout regime, etc.

Now, let's apply the same logic to your circumstance. You're motivated to change your life. Awesome! Good for you! But, sorry to break it to you, your "change" more than likely won't happen over night.

What is it about your past that's holding you back? Or a better question; is it really holding you back? I'll take a wild guess and say that it's not your actual "fucked up past," but you, yes; you that is holding yourself back from actually changing. Move on and start thinking positively. You will not get anywhere setting around moping about whatever your problem is.

Ask yourself, "what am I dissatisfied with in my life?" Do you want a higher paying job? Do you want to get into better shape? Want a girlfriend? What ever it is, life isn't going to hand it to you. What are you going to do about it? You're not going to wake up tomorrow morning as Mr. -paI, the brand new, motivated, ideal man. You are going to wake up tomorrow and every morning as -paI, the man in the same crummy position as the day before.

Identify what steps you can take to improve yourself, no matter how small, and find it within to make those changes happen.

Hope this helps. Best of luck, mate.

Edited for wording

squarehouse · 2012-10-22T14:41:57+00:00

Imagine, four years from now, when you turn 30, how much time you have wasted.

And you'll be exactly where you are now, trolling seddit, still looking for motivation.

I am 30 now.

2012-10-22T09:05:01+00:00

You can spend today wallowing about yesterday. Or you can spend it bettering yourself for tomorrow. Think about all the years you've wasted stuck in the mindset of "there are so many things I could've done." Not only are you wasting more time, but you are wasting it thinking about time you've already wasted!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xdUN37cNDO4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ykbx-yzFgBo

2012-10-22T23:34:59+00:00

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bl1y · 2012-10-22T05:03:19+00:00

What is it that you want to change? And what do you want to change to?

2012-10-22T11:12:51+00:00

Think about where you'll be in 5 years on your current path, versus where you'll be if you make the changes you want.

it's never too late to work towards a better future

Okikii · 2012-10-22T12:36:28+00:00

You can't control past and that is the fact. Just stop thinking and caring about things what you can't control. Oh, I really hate myself for last 5 years, I was awful, wasted so much time gaming.... It makes you feel awful, so just stop thinking about it because YOU CANT CHANGE YOUR PAST! Just stop caring about it and keep your mins busy with new things what you just learned and what you want to change in yourself.

PUAbox · 2012-10-22T15:05:30+00:00

Jump in to the fray and start swinging. No other way.

2012-10-22T23:29:40+00:00

First, x-post this to /r/getmotivated.

Second, it's important to consider how your future self will feel about this, so I want you to think about two things:

1) Imagine your 21 year-old-self. Now branch this two ways: a)Imagine your 21 year old self does what you want to do now. How does that change your present-self's life? b) Imagine your 21 year old self makes no changes. How do you feel now?

2) Imagine yourself as a 30 year-old. How will you feel if you stick to the changes you're making now? How will you feel if you change nothing?

Get off your ass. You owe it to your future self.

2012-10-23T11:48:20+00:00

Fuck you! I'm 30 and I wish I had those 4 years.

I'm 100% sure you know exactly what needs to be done, you just look for excuse not to do it here.

What worked for me?

-Made a fucking decision and stuck with it.

-Asked who I want to be, and how I want to do it and then I did it, one small step after another, no fucking shortcuts.

-Ignored my own fear, accepted my negative emotions as a normal thing and learned to controll them.

-Fought all forms of anxiety by indicing it in myself over and over and over again. You are affraid or anxious about something? Go and do it! Now! There is a ride called apocalypse near my town. Basically a vertical drop from a decent height. I was shitting myself when I thought about it, before even seeing it. I screamed like a little bitch I was when I was on it. I get off it, and then I FUCKING QUEUED IN AGAIN! And second time was fun! At around 5th time I asked the cute ride controll girl can I go upside down and made her laugh! It's the best ride I been at. Reprogram your mind to the idea that anxiety is just a sign that here comes the excitment!

-Started working out regularly and eating healthy, no fucking excuses. Got cardio jog and its raining? Well good you have a towel ready then! It's cold outside? Wear bigger socks. This is a general advice by the way, don't make excuses, look for solutions!

-Got used to the feeling that this shit is FUCKING HARD TO DO, and it will take fucking time - hell it might not even work! It's really difficult to pick up girls when you have no done it really for 30 years. Sometimes I think I might be to late, that I wasted too much time. You know what? That might be very much true, but I rather try and see for myself, and if I fail I know that I fucking tried my best!

It's a year now since I started, I still have no success, got laid maybe 30 times with two women, but I'm a self-loving machine full of life and happiness, and nothing can fucking derail me. I'm still improving, I'm still learning, but my life is fucking awesome!

Title	I'm 26 and very motivated to change my life...my only problem is I feel like I've wasted so much time, and it's killing my motivation. Advice?
Author	-paI
Upvotes	22
Comments	15
Date	October 22, 2012 4:57 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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