Hey guys,

I'm posting this while I still have a bit of a buzz from last night. (A hungover and still slightly drunk one at that) I've actually posted on this seddit before, not using my personal account. I wouldn't want friends reading this tbh.

By no means am I a master of PUA, and I don't have that many notches under my belt, but here are some things I've realised from lurking in this seddit. I realise it's probably all duplicate advice, but I hope some folk might find it useful.

For years I've got it into my head that I'm hideous. I was bullied in school and that did nothing for my self esteem. I always considered that I wasn't good enough for a hot girl and that I would eventually have to settle for some munt bag. It's not true though, in recent months I've tried to be exuberant, fun to be around, always tried to give value to friends and family, actually making them want to hang around with me. Think positive... No amount of cheesy pick up lines will work if you're not doing these things.

The most important thing of I've learnt, isn't some pickup line or little technique. It's actually being comfortable in my own skin. I'm 26 and I feel like it has taken me this long to get here, but it's paying off in spades. I feel like hitting myself for all the wasted opportunities through the years. All it took was a little self belief and confidence. You can do it!

Last night I was in the club and a HB8 actually approached me. That never used to happen, but I think with my new found charisma, it's paying off in bucket loads. This girl told me I was so cute and gorgeous. I think it was more so down to her liking my personality. This NEVER used to happen to me.

I've been in the friend zone for nearly a year, I've fixated on this girl, lusted for her, dreamt about her. A definite case of oneitis. She was in my group of friends last night, and when the other girl approached me. I chatted her up, got her number, danced with her and made sure the girl who friend zoned me saw it. For all the times she tells me about her boy trouble, guys she's dated I just thought... fuck it. Even a month ago I wouldn't have dared to have chat up another girl in front of her in fear of losing heras a friend or something. Last night I was on the dance floor with friend zone girl and she was even picking guys out from the crowd and grinding on them etc, it was like a jealous-off... And you know what? It has worked some sort of magic... She has been texting me all morning. Some even quite suggestive stuff. Before it was a struggle to get anything out of her by text and now all of a sudden that she saw a threat, she's being really cool to me. Not forgetting that I'm still texting the other HB8 at the same time :)

Another important thing I've learnt over my friend zone situation is to stop fucking worrying of what other people think of you. I was the worst in the world for caring of what other people thought. You've got to get that out of your head and say FUCK IT. Be your own person, do what makes YOU happy and stop caring.

I'm typing this on my phone and my hand is sore, I'll maybe post some more stuff if I can think of it. I hope it can help some of you guys.