Day 8-9:

Day 7 seemed like a big jump from six. It was a move to a definite start of a conversation, with more than one girl/person at a time. It was both frightening and exciting. Conversely, days 8 and 9 are rather uninspired.
Day 8, the mission is to repeat what I did on day 7, but with an added “root” and time constraint to the opener. This seems pretty intuitive. A root is a reason for asking the opener, so the set you approach doesn’t think you’re a crazy person. In my opener, it is as simple as, “hey, this girl just friended me on FB and you guys look like experts” that is the background of why I am going to them. It could be anything. “My friends were just discussing..” “I’ve been trying all day to remember..” A time constraint is quite intuitive as well. Your set is likely apprehensive at first, so by making it clear you don’t intend to lurk around and be dull, you relieve some of this tension. Again, as easy as “I only have a minute…” or “I have to go join my friends for bro night..” It is good to supplement this with corresponding body language, turning away, rocking backward, anything to indicate you aren’t gonna plant yourself down there.

Well, I’m not wasting a day on that shit. It’s intuitive, and I basically used it in day 7. Day 9 is the same thing again, but approaching mixed sets (2 of them). Since I did a mixed set on day 7, this isn’t much of a stretch either. But I decided to aggregate 8 and 9’s missions and just do two mixed sets using a root, opener, and time constraint.

(Side note: On this day I began doing Kegel exercises. I thought that was very important that you know that. I figure if the bitches be comin, I want them comin before I do ;) Also, had a date with a third girl (6+) I’d been seeing before the challenge began. The fact I was still seeing this girl defies everything one would expect from seddit. We’d had a great first date, followed up by a long wait period before a second one, which went well, but I made some mistakes that basically made her lose interest in me, which wasn’t clear until the texting started to fall off afterward. Then I got real needy-ish through text, and overthinking things. I posted on here about what to do and everyone said it was over. Then I decided to start over. If text game works once, why not make it work again. I grew balls, iced her for several days until she actually texted me. Then I progressed through the normal process all over again, and after our date yesterday, I can safely say I Lazarus’d the shit out of that relationship somehow. The attraction is without a doubt there in full force.)

Later that day I was hanging out w high school friends again until pretty late at night. I left them all at about 12:30-1:00am. As I drove home I realized it’d be much easier just to knock out this challenge right then instead of worrying about it the next day. So I went downtown. Parked, started strolling along the streets with a lot of bars, enjoying myself and feeling pretty great about my decision. I strolled into a bar, and immediately heard my name being called. Three girls I hadn’t seen since freshman year of college were sitting there, and they called me over. (Full range: 6+, 6.0, 6-) To be completely honest, I saw them and had no idea who they were. They had to remind me of their names, which I felt a little bad about, but c’est la vie. They asked me who I was there with. “No one” I replied. They laughed, “no really, who are you here with?” I too laughed, “Really, no one. It’s just so easy to meet people.” I smiled. They didn’t really know what to do with that. They invited me to join them at a bar/club to dance, I told them that sounded great, and I’ll talk to them later. “Well, I guess I should get your phone number if I’m going to find you all later,” to the 6+. Got that, excused myself. Work time.

  1. Approached 2 girls 1 guy set (6+, 6+, dude, maybe 6+? haha) with a new opener, and employing the root/time additions. “Hey, I have a question for you all. I’m about to go meet my friend for a drink, and I’m supposed to talk to him about this crazy girl he went out with like 4 times… and he lost interest in her and stopped calling. But then she called him and got all kinds of upset that he didn’t officially break up with her. Is that crazy? How many dates does it take before you need an official break up?” First of all, I hate this opener. I thought of it on the way over, and as you can see, it’s wordy, and too many qualifying statements. But I went with it for continuity on the two sets. They all looked at me blankly, and the guy and one girl basically went back to a conversation, but despite the bad opener, the other girl became very invested in this story. “First of all!” she exclaimed, “Your friend is an idiot.” “Oh?” “Yes, he can’t decide after four dates if he’s interested”..It seemed like there was a personal thing goin on. And perhaps alcohol. “You think so? So you would just go out with a guy again even if you weren’t interested?” “Yes! At least 12 times” “Hmm. Ok, well that’s good to know. I’ll go tell him. Thanks!” I left.

  2. Next set, 2girls, 2 guys (6+, 6-). Same opener. And as I said, it’s wordy. One dude looked at the other one and actually said, “TL; DL” and laughed. This site saved me on this one. The girls were still looking at me, but they laughed too. “Didn’t listen?” I responded. “Fair enough, that was a ton of words. In brief, I …” I delivered the premise of the opener again, distilled this time. The guys still were not particularly interested, but both girls were hooked. “Well basically, your friend needs to tell that girl to stop being a crazy bitch!” one said. “Mmm. I agree, so how many dates do you think would be reasonable to require an official breakup?” The other girl went into a long thing about how it depends on how intimate it is and that it completely depends blah blah. I learned what I needed to here. “Thanks for the help”

Night game is different. Obviously. Less inhibition w alcohol, and more suspicion of strangers. I learned that that opener blows, it doesn’t interest guys at all, and as a result, it would be very difficult to assimilate into a larger mixed set bc of its limited appeal. It probably would have worked with set 1 since the girl was on her own more or less. Anyway, I got through it. Day 10?