Female friends wanting sexual validation

imstartingover · 2013-02-16T23:10:02+00:00

You are giving to much thought to what these girls say.

Just dis-miss whatever they say that you don't like /r/howtonotgiveafuck Because you are clearly giving a lot of fucks to what they say do.

If you really just want them as platonic friends what you need to do is demonstrate them that you are not a chump, go out there be social get more female friends, and what would really make them stop teasing you would be get the hottest girl you can and parade her in front of them.

this pretty much will get you out of their "shit zone". In which i guess you are.

Cheers.

2013-02-16T22:47:08+00:00

I would straight up tell R that you're sick of her bullshit. Don't be mean or condescending, but firmly state that you don't appreciate the remarks, and put emphasis on the fact that she doesn't actually know what she's talking about anyway.

As for S, I feel like she's just treating you like a friend. That's the sort of thing girls say to their friends. People in general love being complimented, and some people fish for them more than others. I don't think that's really anything out of the ordinary.

frogma · 2013-02-17T00:12:55+00:00

Like these guys have said, R just sounds like a bitch, whereas S probably doesn't even realize that she's causing you some discomfort (and/or she still likes you, in which case, respond however you want -- the ball's in your court if she still likes you). Frankly, with S, I would flatter her -- but I'm a dick and I like to keep my options open. She's probably mostly just treating you as a friend though, so be a friend. What's weird though is this:

If we're friends, we're platonic friends. I refuse to be a friend-zoned guy.

That's a weird way of phrasing the situation. You make it sound like you actually are attracted to S. Why else would you care about being "friend-zoned"?

S might be shit-testing you, but it's pretty standard for girls to say those types of things to their friends.

R's probably not shit-testing you -- she sounds more like a straight-up bitch who likes to stroke her own ego.

With S, I'd just be friendly and use conversation-threading -- when she mentions XYZ, pick out one of those topics and roll with it.

With R, I'd either agree and amplify, or I'd be a total dick about it and say something equally shameful back to one of her retorts. I wouldn't consider her a "friend" in the first place, though I dunno -- there might be more to the story than what you said. If she's usually friendly, I'd blow off most of her comments but respond with a zinger every once in a while.

bink1time · 2013-02-17T01:32:48+00:00

Don't be friends with R. Wow what a simple solution someone is condescending and mean to you. They are not really your "friend".

Bang S.

You are over thinking it. You can't tell if S likes you? You know how you tell if a girl likes you by escalating.

"I refuse to be a friend-zoned guy." - What are you talking about here? She is your friend. She is just telling you about guys that she is met and she wants to bang. That's what friends do. Your guy friends talk to you about girls they see and want to bang. Friend zone is when you try to bang her but she puts you down and uses you for shit. This chick isn't testing you she is being your friend. I think you are over thinking/being weird. Just be fucking normal if you want her as a friend be her friend. If you want to bang her bang her.

winningreddit · 2013-02-16T22:38:27+00:00

I'd just say pretty much what you said to each of them, individually. Or at least tell "R" that it bothers her when she says things like that.

2013-02-17T04:11:17+00:00

one time i had a girl convinced i was gay because i didn't hit on her specifically. she was not attractive at all, and i just wasn't interested, but i was talking to her and her male friend and at the end of the night she tells me, and then i end up getting her number. i didn't call.

2013-02-17T04:42:55+00:00

Dude, life is too short to hang out with complicated ugs. Back in the day, only gay guys had chick friends. This concept of friend girls is as odd to my generation as fried butterfly. But if you must have them, pick some that are at least hot. That is good for social proof. Only worthy, hot chicks can shit test you. Anyone else is just annoying, and you should cut 'em loose.

eablokker · 2013-02-17T04:47:14+00:00

The best way out of this is radical honesty if you can handle it (you can). Tell them both exactly how you feel about them even if it hurts their feelings. From reading your post I still can't tell whether you're interested or not interested. You may have conflicting feelings about them, like I appreciate this and this about you but I get angry and annoyed when you do this and this. Make sure to tell them the positive and negative. The truth will set you free because they can't argue with that. They can't say no that's not how you really feel, they can't win an argument against the truth. The truth always wins, and you will win along with it!

2013-02-17T06:30:58+00:00

I known a few girls like this, and I've always thrown around the ole, well, its so cool that we're just friends, or I feel like you're a little sister. That will turn it around on them a little. Sometimes it backfires, and they'll actually start trying more. You need to have a girl that you are dating be around the friends.

EagerSleeper · 2013-02-19T22:40:07+00:00

Use them as wingwomen, close in front of them, smirk and be like "lol whatever you say" anytime they say something sexual that "goes over your head".

Title	Female friends wanting sexual validation
Author	UpvoterOmega
Upvotes	60
Comments	13
Date	February 16, 2013 10:20 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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