For me confidence is all about outcome independence.

Outcome independence buys me three things:

  1. Confidence. If you don't care about the outcome, it's almost impossible not to be confident.
  2. Non-neediness, this goes without saying.
  3. Attractiveness (it turns out being confident and non-needy is attractive).

The method I use to achieve outcome independence is very simple. This may not work for everyone, but it has worked wonders for me so I thought I'd share:

Whenever I go sarging, I'm practicing seduction. That's all I'm doing. The only outcome I'm after is practice, if I go out and there are no girls to approach, I'll be bummed, but any other outcome and I'm totally satisfied.

This serves me well in a few ways:

  1. I don't skip approaches and am able to push through AA (why would I skip an approach if all I'm trying to do is practice!?)
  2. I don't get bent out of shape when I blow out a set.
  3. I don't fear rejection.

My apologies if a lot of this sounds basic, but it's been so fundamental to my success I thought I'd share.