Until recently, I have been a very "hands-off" texter. I knew that I had a habit of over texting girls merely out of boredom, and I was killing any attraction I had built up. After finding seddit, I decided to cut texting to an absolute minimum before sleeping with a girl. I figured after sealing the deal, I would be allowed a little more wiggle room. Until recently, I had been suggesting to everyone to keep texting to a bare minimum for logistical purposes and nothing else. Tonight changed that for me.

Two Mondays ago, I went on a pretty boring date. We had dinner and a couple drinks, but pretty much no kino. We didn't have much in common. At the end of the night, we shared a polite little hug. Well, so much for that, I thought. I didn't text her again for several days. I was more than willing to let it go and move on. I figured she was a dead end. Later in the week, she texted me out of the blue. A good sign.

Out of nowhere, she mentioned that her neighbor has crazy orgy sex parties as a joke. I latched onto it. I deleted the conversations, so I don't have specific examples, but you can just imagine. I didn't carry on conversations very long, I ended them on my own terms, but they were always 100% sexual. Even when I got a text like "How was work?" I would respond "Not as much fun as your neighbor's sex party." Literally completely shameless.

Eventually, she mentioned she got stuff to make tacos, so I was like "I hope you deliver late". She responded "I think I can make an exception..." I knew it was on. Quickly set up a dinner and movie date at my place. Turned on Tropic Thunder and started pretty much the first kino aside from light touches on her back as we were walking. Arm around the shoulder. Playing with her hands. Making out.

Funny aside, here's the conversation leading to the make out:

Her: I'm gonna get my family some boxers as a joke gift.

Me: I don't really wear those anymore. I upgraded to boxer briefs. Much more "young professional".

Her: That's important when you're touching kids. A reference to a joke earlier in the night

Me: Yup. Gotta have the right underwear to touch kids. How about you?

Her: I usually wear booty shorts.

Me: They don't really make those for men.

Make out

She said we couldn't have sex several times because she was afraid her period was starting soon. She gave me a BJ halfway through the movie. After the movie finished, she said "I should leave in a minute..." to which I responded "In a minute, huh?" Started making out. Ended up having sex.

What we can take away from this:

You don't have to be a Don Juan to get ladies into bed. You don't have to go on the most perfect, romantic, fun, interesting date in the world. You can be boring as shit, and still get the girl. Simply being up front and direct about sex can take you a pretty far way.

When it comes to text game, obviously don't make pointless chit chat. You're not her goddamn girlfriend. However, if you see any kind of innuendo or overt sexual talk, take it and fucking run. Bring it up out of nowhere. Only talking about sex will let her know exactly where you stand. She can take it or leave it.

The whole reason this worked for me is the fact that I'm outcome independent and working from an abundance mentality. I'm not out trying to impress girls by saying the "right thing". I'm willing to drop girls because I don't think things are going how I want them to. I can wait for them to come to me. Obviously, it's a lot easier said than done to just go out, be confident, be outcome independent, and have abundance mentality. Shit's not that easy. It's all about experience, and I promise you, once you get over those first couple hurdles, it doesn't rain, but it pours.