So I've been working on my one night stand/fwb game, because it's pretty much non-existant, and...I'm horny, so yeah. Well, really I just decided I'm done with relationships for the moment, I'm young and I'd rather spend that time improving myself at this point in my life, but a man still needs to get laid. If you want to look at my previous posts trying to do this stuff look here.

I went out with one other friend tonight, if you read my previous FR's I've been having trouble on nights out because when I go out with my friends it's very much been a 'lets get fucked and dance all night' night, which isn't really much good for hitting on girls, especially for me, my game goes to shit as soon as I get drunk drunk.

So to remedy that, I drank far less. I barely have a hangover, I'm sat around my house watching the French Open just because that feels like what I'm meant to be doing after a night out. This made so much difference last night, my head was 100x clearer, and that made it so much easier to transfer the things I know I should be doing into action.

The second thing I did was go out with just one friend. This turned out to be a bit of a mistake, this friend has always claimed to have game, but I've never really seen him gaming a girl, and found out yesterday that he's all talk. He couldn't open, he was awkward in conversations and once even walked off while I was on my way to open a group for us.

But this time I did what I should've done last time and just ditched him half way through the night. It wasn't a dick move, he has a habit of disappearing on nights out anyway, and at this point he was so drunk he was basically running off himself anyway. I found him at the end of the night and he stayed at mine...and got really emotional. It was interesting...

My game definitely improved from the limited chances to talk to girls I had last time I went out (will make sense if you read the last FR). Interestingly I found that my approach anxiety went down while I was more sober, simply because when I'm in control of myself I'm pretty confident in my abilities. At one point in the night I got drunker than I'd have liked, and I knew it, I knew I wasn't in control and I just couldn't open again. Fortunately I had a couple glasses of water and got back to normal in about 20 minutes. A benefit of the decreased AA is that the girls I was going for were far hotter. I very much lost the distinction between an 7 and a 10 last night. I'm a good looking guy, and I was hitting on girls who were less attractive than me in the past, just because I thought it would be easier, but they really are all the same in reality.

The biggest thing I need to remedy is my opening and conversation game. I don't have problems escalating, but I regularly forget to pay attention to conversations enough to really develop them, I'm focusing too much on making sure I kino and what not. This lead to a girl clearly being into me, but things getting awkward as we ran out of anything to talk about.

One thing I decided is that I'm going to stop hitting on generic girls, because I realised I'm literally going up to girls just because they're hot, and it's very hard to make a conversation out of 'you're hot'. Several times last night I also ended up talking to girls who apparently don't have any hobbies outside of watching TV and going out, which was boring. There are so many girls on a night out that have an interesting tattoo, dress, are doing something interesting that I actually want to know about, I don't know why I don't talk to them instead.

When I'm genuinely interested in what I'm talking about rather than trying to guide a conversation in some way my game is pretty good, I don't need to think about the conversation and I can concentrate a little on being flirty and escalating. Also, why pick an uninteresting girl over an interesting one?

Fortunately, I'm pretty good at analysing my own problems, I can see what I'm doing wrong most of the time, it's just a matter of ballsing up and making sure I do all the things I need to, every time, rather than doing half the things one time and the other half on the next approach.

I really wish I could find a good wingman, I mean I was alone most of last night, but I'd still rather have someone around who I can chill out and enjoy a night with, but not have to worry about him fucking anything up. I still find the idea of going out by myself pretty weird. I don't think I'd do badly, but I don't think I'd enjoy it. I'm not sure if I'm pussying out or not, I think I'm going to have to force myself to try it just to get the thought of it out of my head.

Question: Do you guys have any good resources for dancefloor game? As in, I can't hear you game. I'm a drummer, so my hearing isn't awesome as it is, and once I get onto a dance floor I'm pretty much useless. This basically limits where I can hit on girls to the smoking area, at the bar or in booths, which while sizeable aren't where I enjoy spending most of my night at a club.

Also, how do you interact with other guys at the club? I always have a laugh with other guys, and later I'll acknowledge them and make jokes when I walk around, but I never really integrate them into my night. I feel like I could do this a lot more, and would be a lot of fun. Any advice on this?